relationships and age

how old do you think someone has to be to have a boyfriend, or in any romantic relationship? im going into 9th grade this fall, but in 8th grade, it seemed like everyone had a boyfriend/girlfriend. most of the time though (as far as i am aware), no one went on dates. they just made out in the hallways when teachers weren't around.

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9 replies since 27th July 2011 • Last reply 27th July 2011

I didn't have a serious boyfriend until the end of 9th grade. I think that 8th grade is too young, and trust me, for most of 9th grade you're going to be too busy for a bf. When you do get one, don't do the make-out in hallways thing. It's gross and nobody wants to see that. Plus, it means that you don't have an actual emotional relationship with the person

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i got my first and only bf, now fiancé, when I was 18 and 5months
it's whenever you feel ready, and when someone you like likes you too.

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To echo the comments above, I'd also say whenever you're ready - and also depending on what you want from the relationship. I was fifteen when I had my first boyfriend (not sure how that maps to the US schooling system, it's different over here), but I guess cultural differences may make that more acceptable in the UK than in the US - maybe? I don't know.

I think what's more important than age is making sure that the relationship is something that is beneficial (and not damaging) to you. The way I see it, it's just nice to have someone to love and be there for, and who will do the same in return :3

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I didn't have a real boyfriend until grade 10.

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I don't think you have to be a certain age, but you shouldn't rush into a relationship if you're not ready. I started dating my fiance when I was in grade 10, and unlike everyone else I know, I haven't had many relationships before. I'd only had one serious relationship before and I'm glad I didn't have many relationships. If the relationship doesn't work out, generally the girls tend to get heartbroken and it takes forever for them to heal emotionally. Thats why I never wanted a boyfriend at the beginning of high school when everyone had boyfriends or girlfriends

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I don't think there is a "normal" age or time to have your first boyfriend. I wouldn't put any store into when your friends get their first boyfriends. You'll get your first boyfriend when you meet a boy who you like who likes you back- and that's all there is to it. Some of my friends are in their mid twenties and still haven't had that first boyfriend yet. Chances are you're going to date a few guys before you meet the right guy. Don't get wrapped up into believing you're "in love" (which most people can convince themselves they are) with every guy you date. Keep in mind while your in high school and even in college that when you do meet the right guy you want to have a whole and complete heart to give him, not one that's been broken a bunch of times because you've convinced yourself that you were going to spend your life with several guys.

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yeah, i think most people my age are trying to jump in to relationships and they arent serious.

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remember: its ok to say no, and if a guy pressures you kick him (figuratively or physically) and run away!

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KellBell, I had my first boyfriend when I was 17. It was just before 12th grade. I had a few dates and a few kisses before that but nothing serious.

I worried a lot over not having a boyfriend when many of my friends did. It was wasted time. I wish I had spent that time studying or having a hobby.

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