I'm really just looking for some support rigth now and maybe ways I can cope better.
For the past few weeks, things have been kinda...well rough, for lack of better words, i suppose. From school troubles to problems at home, I'm just getting it on all sides.
I don't really have anyone to talk to (as mellow dramatic as I know it sounds) so I'm kinda stuck in my own mind.
Lately though, it's been getting worst. I'm not a suicidal person at all and I always try to stay positive and look towards the future (sometimes that's all ya can really do, right?) but physically, I don't know how much more I deal with it. I'm so tired all the time and just want to sleep, but when I try to go to sleep, I can't. In the past couple of weeks when i d sleep, its for hours and hours and I won't wake up. But most times, I'm sleeping from 5am to around 7:30am. I'm so hungry but I can't eat anything and am having diarrhea and my stomach hurts all the time. And now I just wanna cry all the time for no reason.
It's killing my mom to see me like this but I don't know what to do anymore. I read somewhere once that some people cope with stress by making themselves sick. Is that what I'm doing?
I know exactly what is triggering all of this, but it's something that's literally impossible for me to get away from.
I just wanna find a better way to cope with stress.
Oh goodness, my lovely, that's a lot of bad stuff
Firstly, if I was there I'd be giving you a *massive* hug because it sounds like you really do need it.
Secondly, have you thought about going to see a doctor? Your symptoms sound really nasty and you need to keep a really close eye on your fluid intake if you've got unhappy insides. If not, have you tried over-the-counter remedies like immodium (if you can get it)? If you focus on clearng up the physical nasties, you'll probably be in a better frame of mind to deal with the emotional stuff.
Thirdly, with the lack of sleep, it might be best to just accept it. Instead of stressing about the fact that you can't sleep, get up and do something that needs doing, so you're using your awake time effectively. This also helps when your brain decides to just not stop and you have millions of things buzzing around in there(I get this a lot).
When your body decides it needs to shut off for hours and hours, just go with it (as long as you're not missing anything important like school/college). Equally, if you feel like you just have to put your head down then take a nap straight away. Not stressing about your sleep means less stress overall, and you might even end up sleeping more.
Also, it's not the same, but I find that lying on/in bed with my eyes closed and just relaxing can help as well.
Sorry, that's a ridiculously long post... In a quick tl;dr: find a remedy for the diarrhea, drink lots of water, sleep when you need to and only worry about the important things. Good luck sweetie, and I'm sorry I couldn't be more help *more hugs*
P.S. There are lots of lovely people on this site, from what I've seen - if you need more support then keep posting and I'm sure you'll get it.
First of all I suggest you start taking control of your life back-- because it seems like you've lost control over things.
Whenever I go through depression I lose my appetite and have had troubles sleeping. But I fully believe in mind over matter. Tell yourself when it is time to eat and then eat regardless of whether you want to or not. When it's time to sleep lay on your bed, empty your mind of all thoughts and focus only on your breathing. You'll be surprised out how easily breathing properly can put you to sleep. Place one hand on your chest and the other on your diaphragm and fill your chest and then your diaphragm with air, hold for a few seconds and then release slowly from your diaphragm and then your chest.
Regardless of whether you fall asleep or not you are doing your body more good by resting than you would be if you were to get up and do something else. Doctors agree that even lying down and resting the mind is equal to sleep as far as your health and well-being are concerned. It will also help you sleep better if you avoid caffeine and the computer before bed. I suggest reading instead of playing on the computer. Also make sure you don’t have your TV or radio on when you sleep- it actually interrupts your sleep more and makes you more restless. Try to make sure your room is nice and dark when you sleep also.
You also need to focus on making yourself happy. Did you know the older you get the less you laugh? Laughing actually helps boost your mood and can help you stay healthy. I suggest watching a funny movie at least once a week or a funny sitcom once a day to help clear your blues. If all else fails try faking a smile until you really do smile. Smiles are contagious and people will pass real ones back to you if they see you smiling.
Try getting out of your house for a while each day even if it’s to take a walk or to drive to the store for your parents. Getting away from environments that you find stressful for a little while can help to take your mind off things and a change of scenery never hurt anyone.
Keep your head up girl, you're going through a transitional period which is always hard but just remind yourself that you are stronger than the situation and you will overcome it in no time.
Thank you both. I'm trying really hard to keep strong and will keep your words in mind when I'm not feeling so positive. I slept okay last night (was on and off but otherwise fine) and I ate a bit today (it made me sick, but it was something at least ye? I'M gonna try to find foods that might be more gentle on an upset stomach, like fruits that are in season). I went to the doctor today for the bsck pain I've been having and he said it's a spine injury from an accident i had, but we ended up talking sbout screening else that was wrong with me, and he prescribed me a night time anti depressant and said it should help calm my nerves and help me sleep at night. So I'm hoping this helps me.
I know what you're going through. I've also been really depressed and have had trouble sleeping and eating because of it. I don't have anyone to talk to except my boyfriend but we have been fighting the past few days, which has made me feel even worse. I've found that keeping myself distracted helps. I spend most of my time making jewellery, playing PC games, or at work to keep my mind off everything.
For my sleeping problems, I drink calcium and magnesium suppliments before bed to make me sleepy, and make sure I don't do anything that keeps my brain busy, like listening to calming music or playing with my pet mouse. If I'm still awake around 3am on a school night, I drink one light sleeping pill. My mother gives me another one to put next to my bed if I've drank the previous one, to make sure I'm not tempted to overdose.
For the eating problem, I try to eat things that are healthy and don't have things like preservatives in, like fruits, veggies and nuts. I drink a protein shake to make sure that I get in enough proteins because I don't eat meat. I also take vitamin supplements every day after I've managed to eat something, so I make sure I keep my body healthy.
I hope that you feel better soon! If you ever need someone to talk to you can send me a message and I'll be there for you because I know how much it sucks going through this alone. *hugs*
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