if you talk to any of my friends, they will tell you when they first met me,they thought i was really shy and quiet but im completely different. but thats only when im with friends. in school, or dances, or anything else, i would love to be out there and crazy or stand out but im too self aware. i dont care what people think that much but there is always that one part of me that thinks what people think of me. any help?
I used to be like that, but then i decided i didn't care anymore. i wanted to be seen differently than what i was. i just let all the expectations i'd built for myself go. i dressed differently, and said what i wanted to. you have nooooo idea how much i like the new me better than the old me
be prepared for some people not to like it,they may say it to your face. its ok to hate those people ;) ive had that done to me, this lady i know said to my face she didnt like my hair colour. my NATURAL colour. that really ticked me off.
It's fairly natural to care about what other's think about you. It comes from our basic human need to be loved. That being said, you'll grow more confident in yourself as you get older and you'll worry less about other people and what they think about you. Especially when you have the real realization that most people you know don't spend a lot of time thinking about you.
1) Change your music. Try Lady Gaga, Madonna, Hilary Duff.
2) Change your style. Just add one super crazy accessory a day. Normal clothes with a neon yellow and green chunky bracelet make enough of a statement to say "I'm different."
3) Sing REALLY LOUD when you're by yourself. Listen to yourself. Dance around naked. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable you could be with others. (But don't dance naked in front of them...)
4) Remember: People are people and they will always be that way. They may not ever approve of you...but YOU can approve of yourself.
thanks for all the advice, im going into high school this fall too, so its the perfect time to overcome the shyness
I wish you the absolute best. Going into high school was a huge transition for me as well. I wasn't shy in middle school; I was mean. I was used to everyone calling me names and such, so I was just mean to everyone but my close friends.
This transition is a big one, and I hope it turns positive for you as well! =)
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