I've never had a boyfriend.

And it will probaly be a while before I get one if I ever do beacause Im not in school and I dont go out much....so wondering if anyone had any help on this subject

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26 replies since 18th January 2011 • Last reply 18th January 2011

I met my last two online, be careful though obviously Happy

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Oh wow...lucky lol!

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It's been a while since I've dated but I think that what worked best for me was going out and getting to know people. Get a part-time job working with others around your age, hang out with friends at a few low-key places that sort of thing.

The best advice I can tell you is that the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over again and expecting different results. If you do nothing you can expect nothing.

What never worked for me was blind dates. I had friends set me up a few times and usually I ended up getting hooked up with their loser friends or their boyfriend's loser friends who were single for a reason. My friends didn't pay attention to whether or not I'd like them or be interested in them- they just thought that that because I was single I'd be ok to date anyone.

As a general rule I try to avoid setting people up on dates. I did it once with my best friend and my nephew and my nephew disappointed me by being a real jerk (even though he was the one begging to be set up)

I think online dating has some merits to it- my sister met her husband on an online dating site. But you really have to push through a lot of toads before you meet someone worth being with. Also if you're not honest about yourself (like just posting face pictures or telling a lie on your profile) you are likely to get burned on the first date. Of course if you're under the age of 18 I wouldn't go that route ever! The safest way for someone under the legal age to date is by not meeting them online.

I'm not sure how old you are- you appear fairly young but I would always recommend a girl put her safety first before anything else.

And what's more is to not be in a huge rush to date or to date a guy just because you want a boyfriend. The best things come to those who wait.

I'd also just like to say for the record that having a boyfriend isnt all it's cracked up to be. Boyfriends can be real let-downs.

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yeah, getting out there helps. I have been without a bf for a year now, by choice

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Why don't you try signing up for a class? There might be a drama, art, language or activist group that runs something in your area. You could look for a boy while making new friends and learning pottery or Italian ;)

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I had my first actually boyfriend in 9th grade. I met him though a friend. Really the best way to meet a guy is to just get out there. Make some friends and go hang out at the mall or the park just anywhere. Whatever you do...just be yourself. Dont TRY to impress anyone just do what you do. People will love you for who you are.

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I didn't have a boyfriend until tenth grade. We only dated for about a month and it wasn't even really serious. Then about a year later I met another guy and I call him my first real boyfriend, but I can honestly say I'm going to marry him. And I was really lucky to meet him because we both went to the same show that night even though we both weren't planning on going. I met him through a friend because it was his birthday. So just get out and mingle and ask friends if they know anybody.

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I've never had a boyfriend either. I've had a lot of guy friends that were classmates and co-workers but I've never met anyone who interested me that way. I've seen a lot of my friends feel so desperate for a boyfriend that they would date the first a-hole that came along and nothing good came from it. So my advice is to be true to yourself, don't get hung up on things and let things happen when they happen. Don't force it. I'm not the kind of person that settles so I didn't want to waste my time dating a guy who didn't do it for me just because he was there and interested. Call me picky but I want the real thing - whenever it comes along.

So don't worry, you're not the only one!

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Wow i didnt really think i'd get more repies but thanks for the help!

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when it comes, it comes. Let it happen

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I met my husband and last serious boyfriend on myspace! you gotta be careful, of course... but they are two very good guys. I met them as like ms friends of my close friends. My friend threw a myspace "mixer" for about 8 people... we all met up at an open space place and mingled. he asked to be my ms friend, and we started going out to lunch , then to dinner and that was the begining of a really fun relationship. my husband was the ms friend of a friend and I asked my friend hey is he nice... she said he seemed to be and so i invited him to be my friend. wow! we really hit it off. within a week we were going to lunch, then on a date, and married 5 months later! that was three years ago =P . I was careful about how i met them(to not put myself in danger). so yes, I would say get involved in activities and work or whatever but you can also have a happy result with people you meet online. I agree with Lo! DONT SETTLE!!! much love, Chris

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Online relationships can really work out well, as long as you take enough time to get to know someone. My fiance and I met in an MMORPG over three years ago... obviously we're engaged now, and living together and couldn't be happier.

Before that, I went through about 10 different "boyfriends" between the time I was 13 ans 17... No matter what you do to find a guy, you'll have to sort through the bad ones, which can be hard. I found that the better guys come along when you're not looking for one.

I've met a lot of people I've really liked just by taking classes.. college ones, of course, but the more productive things you do with your time, the more likely you are to meet someone worth being with.

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I've found that over time people's opinions of each other can change. My boyfriend is a guy that I've knew (not really been that great of friends with, we were more like acquaintances) since sixth grade. Over this summer, I realised the huge crush I had on him. I'm sixteen and he's my first boyfriend. I had my first kiss three months into our relationship. Happy Don't let society pressure you into thinking that to be worth anything you must have a significant other. It's simply the opposite. Your s.o. must see something in you first!

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lydia says it right Happy

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