Are you KIDDING me?!
This girl really just called me a b**** because I wont' add her on facebook.
You couldn't figure out the reason yourself?!
You didn't realize that I really DON'T know you anymore and that we're actually NOT friends?
Our friendship didn't end on the best of terms (with you walking away in the middle of a conversation).
WE HAVEN'T TALKED FOR 3 1/2 YEARS!!! O_O
I even tried to talk to this girl at the beginning of the year when I saw she sat near my lunch table and she flat out IGNORES ME!!!
And now, because I actually wanna have my
friends and family and people I actually talk to on my friends list instead of 1001 people who I would never talk to, that suddenly makes me a b****?
Way to show your true colours :/
Ick - Facebook is so horribly political! On the one hand, you don't want to have someone viewing what you're saying online if they're going to be mean... It's so horribly invasive! On the other hand, rejecting (or deleting) a 'friend' can cause so many problems! Sorry, there's no way to win this one... It could be that she thought that by sending you a friend request that she was making a step towards reconcilliation with you and that her feelings were hurt when you declined her?
She'd never talk to me :/
I tried to talk to her this year and she just glared at me like I was crazy for even THINKING about talking to her and then turned away.
I don't know...it's just crazy to me that she'd start freakin' over it.
Eeep. Sounds like you're best off without all that! I've had pretty much exactly the same thing happen. It's horrible, but you just have to wait untill the storm passes.
It's just so crazy, right?
It's like...it's FACEBOOK...come on :/
Don't take it personally I had someone attack me through honesty box very poorly...when I confronted them they stuttered around it like they didn't know how to speak. People hide behind it and base their social lifeline off of something completely meaningless...sure I may have 300 people who clicked an accept link...but that by no means translates to actual friends...screw that lady I'm certain you are rad. If that girl has the nuts to treat you so rudely then feel insulted when you do the logical thing, then she needs a smack upside the head.
this irritated me almost as much as how relationships need facebook approval and announcement before they can be deemed official...bah
Oh, I agree to all of this! You know, there's some girl who was terrible to me in high school (decided to stop being my friend on my birthday, randomly--WHO DOES THAT?!?!) who has tried to add me on FB like, 30 times in the past few months! I mean, doesn't she GET that I don't want to add her?!?! I'm about to report her for spam or block her or something. Idk. :-P
I've also had "truth box" attacks--namely from a girl I danced with, WENT TO CHURCH WITH, and competed in pageants with. She is... a pretty average-looking girl who happens to know something about putting her makeup on properly... and she started to attack me PERSONALLY about how I look and how I'm a failure at everything I do and will never amount to anything. When I confronted her about it (there was no question as to who it was), she stopped. Then I deleted her.
(Funny--her mom then started to act up around MY mom--about me. Talk about insecure. xD)
People are just fake. I avoid the issue by not adding anyone I wouldn't honestly want to keep in touch with. I also routinely go through my "friends" list and delete people. It's the only way to stay sane. O.o
rolls eyes, over facebook. Really. Crazy. She is the B*tch.
What Michelle said!!!
I've never heard of the 'honesty box' - sounds like a recipie for disaster!
Rachie Pin-Up - You can block this girl from requesting/ contacting you/ seeing your profile at all (i.e. when she searches for you she will see nothing): http://www.ehow.com/how_2031204_block-people-facebook.html
Thanks--I reported her as spam, but if that doesn't work, I'll just block her. It's getting a little ridiculous. ;)
The problem I have with the 'Friend' suggestion thing on facebook is that the list of people that come up are friends of friends of friends.....etc so I don't know them and don't want to add them as they will have access to my 'friends only' bits. Some people are just 'friend collectors'. Maybe she had a bet with her one fellow b***h mate to see how many more 'friends' she could get on facebook to make up for those she doesn't have in real life. Coz with an attitude like hers who seriously would want to be her friend for real. There are people out in cyberland that are happy to slag off others to make themselves feel better. Get them on their own in real life and they don't have the guts to say anything. Pity her for her sad pathetic way of thinking and don't lose sleep over it sweetie. I remember your kind words and thoughts you shared with me when I said what my condition is. You truely have a kind heart and do not need to have people in your life that cause you pain.
Aww, Sheila, that is a great way of putting it! :-D
Oh, I know, it's so, so crazy!
It's like, when people get on the internet and they have these wild super power and they can do and say anything because they feel so safe. But once you confront them, it's a WHOLE different story.
And the relationship thing made me laugh because that's something I joke around about a lot.
I say "It doesn't say you're with someone on facebook, so it's NOT OFFICAL!!!"
I thought it was crazy that she had to ask.
You can't figure it out yourself?
The truth box sounds crazy :o
I really can't believe people will say stuff online, but not in real life.
I try to make that one of my rules (I'm very new to social networking and after hearing my friends stories, I deicded "If I won't say it in 'real life', I'm not gonna say it at all."
And when a person starts saying stuff like THAT, do they honestly think there's going to be backlash (like, them being confronted about it)?
I wish she would have asked me at school or something.
I would have had a little more respect for her, but she just do it online?
I honestly do think she's a friend collector (as mean as this might sound, I think that if a person has over 350 friends, then they're just accepting and adding anyone they can...Mainly with people MY age, ya know? A 17 year old does NOT know 500 people lol there's no way).
I just can't believe how much shes changed :/ (like, we used to be so, so close, and it was really upsetting to see that sort of side of her after all we went though together)
We used to be so, so close, then one day she and my group of friends just ditched me.
I'm glad I don't hang out with them anymore (they only brought out and encourange the worst in me), but still...it's just crazy.
But when she called me a b****, my world went red for a few seconds lol
I was like "...WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?!" but then I started to feel bad for her and basically told her that this is the situation. I only add people I know and talk to. Take it or leave it.
But at that moment, I just HAD to rant lol
And I hope you're doing well!
Kinda sorta really off topic, but I remember you saying that you were going to start posting new crafts that were related to your therpy, right?
Have you yet?
Honestly, sounds like you care too much what she thinks about you. Maybe you should ask yourself why it’s so upsetting to you that she called you a bitch and then consider if that may have been the same reason why she was so upset that you didn't add her as your friend. And while you're at it, consider whether or not it’s worth your time and energy feeding into all of this negativity.
Remind yourself that no one can make you feel badly unless you let them and you let her, so obviously you still care about her. There are people who I have never met in my life who have said some ridiculously hurtful things about me and done some very outlandishly hurtful things. And despite the fact that I’ve never met those people, it hurts like hell. Which means I care about what they say and do in regards to how they affect me and my life. And they didn’t do that to me, I did. And then I have to decide if I’m going to let that hurt take some control over me or if I’m going to let it go and focus on the things that are important to me. In the end, you’re giving her power over you by even continuing to think about it and that’s you hurting yourself.
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