"Friends"

My friend and I are in a fight. She says I have to change when she is the one who has to 'change'. And why do I have to change? I'm always the one who is apologizing when it's always her fault. She's so stubborn and weird. She says I make fun of her and make comments about her clothes and hair when she's the one always hurting me with her hitting and words. And never saying sorry. Gosh there's so much more but I don't think anyone's gonna read this. Sorry about this weird rant. Haha =] It snowed like 8 inches last night!!

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3 replies since 20th December 2009 • Last reply 20th December 2009

haha..wow..well thats what friends are for right? lol with out the fighting you would be bored lmao. i use to have friends now i keep more to myself. its easier that way. plus i got a bf and a kid so i keep to my personal life more now, but a lil advice, if she doesnt appreciate your friendship, take it a way, if she's truely your friend she will come to her sences and try to figure out what she did wrong an d she'll talk to you. other wise, just like boys, there's tons of fish in the sea! good luck and enjoy that snow! we get none out here in L.A (whomp whomp whomp =/)

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Well you need to tell her those things... I know it's easier said than done but I eventually plucked up the courage to tell my friends that I didn't like them picking on me and always making me out to be the "dumb" person in the group, which 1) there shouldn't be that role 2) I am not actually dumb, I just never thought ahead about the things I said and they were always taken in a rude sexual way or a dumb way.

They don't treat me like that anymore, but now we aren't as close. Most of the times friends grow closer when they tell eachother how they feel but I'm always unfortunate in the friends I pick.

My point is that you shouldn't have to put up with any crap, my great granddad always used to say look out for No.1 because no-one else will!!! Ok this is seeming a bit defensive, but just explain diplomatically what you have told us and see how things pick up from their... if you friendship fizzles out like mine then they aren't good and true friends. I proper friendship will only build and get stroger through situations like this.

SweetS is right, there are always sayings that friendships are forever, blah blah blah, but the sad truth it that they just aren't, when you move through school and after perhaps go to University (or college in America) or get a job after school friends go their own seperate ways because you are all doing different things. We just sort of cling to the people that are in our scenario with us (if that makes sense) once you get a job, you will make friends with and be closer with people from work, same with Uni and different aspects of school life.

I hope my ramblings have not been in vain and that it helps you out with your situation...

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Michelle had a good point in the other post about considering your options from every posible angle as you are the one that know's your friend and your relationship with her... so read what people have written but ultimatly trust your instinct, there are there for a reason!!

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