Another Family Rant

I know we get quite a few family rants on here and I apoligise in advanced but I NEED to vent my frustration!!

It's about my cousin's and that side of my family. It annoys me that that side of my family always seems to indirectly act as if they are better than us, they never say anything and treat us like normal, but there are just certain impressions and actions and stuff that makes them seem to me and my mum to give off the impression that they are better than us. My cousin's parents are still together whereas my parents are divorced, they've all got fairly good jobs and drive whereas my poor mum is struggling and I'm unemployed, me and my mum are bigger ladies and they are all skinner than us etc.

I've got a male cousin that is a month younger than me. The second point moreso relates to a recent situation about when he came down to visit me recently. He has two jobs, one in Tesco's and one getting some graphic design experience (that's what he is studying). I know he is trying to be nice but he is giving ME advice like I'm alot younger than he is, he's like you should get any job blah blah blah. I worked for 4 months at my local co-op and he kinda slated me for quitting.

I put a note on FB about a shitty job interview I had (anyone that is friend's with me on FB will have seen it) stating that I won't take a job doing door-to-door sales. He slated me saying a job is a job. I'm sorry but I'm a Business with Psychology Graduate with a 2:2, I would like to be able to get a job in my career field. I know that I need to take more or less anything atm because the economy is bad, but I REFUSE to do door-to-door sales, the company wanted me to do around 9 hours of walking around in Central London selling their product/service, being 100% commission-based, so I could spend hours trying to sell something, have 100's of doors slammed in my face and STILL ave to pay AT LEAST £5 to get into Central London. No-one likes people that sell door-to-door anyways, I'd probably make none or few sales and lose £5 getting there!!

I'm fine with office work, waitressing, customer services blah blah blah. I'm not denying I need more-or less anything, but I am NOT going to take JUST ANYTHING!! Is it me?! Or am I being silly. I don't get his attitude (as such) I've only been unemployed for 2 months...?

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6 replies since 31st July 2010 • Last reply 31st July 2010

is he a salesman that kind of stuff is just a scam my ex sold Kirby vacuums never made a cent spent more than he made selling stuff door to door.and its your life not his you could just tell him hey i love you but your not paying my bills or buying me food so just be my cousin.a job you love will come and no you are not being silly he is.

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Hmmm I think I'd tell him to mind his own beeswax and concentrate on living his own life not yours.

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My exact FB status said exactly this:

"neeeeeeeds a decent job - NO door-to-door selling or telemarketing/telesales for me thanks. I'd rather scrub the bogs at Maccy D's then that... ok maybe not Happy"

So I don't know if he was reffering to the Maccy D's toilet scrubbing, but even to a point I don't want to be doing that. Like I said I have a 2:2 Business with Psychology degree!! I don't want to be a bog scrubber.

My point was that I don't want a job doing any of them things, I know a job is a job and I need one, but there are certain things I don't want to do. I'd bog scrubbing it if I'd have just left school with my GCSE's, my door-to-door selling I'd FLAT OUT refuse. I'd want to slit my throat at the end of the week Happy

I'm glad it isn't just me... thanks for your advice and support, I really feel like I need it right now as things on the job front are still silent!!

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blufairy: No he isn't so he doesn't seem to quite get it. This will be my first proper proper job. To be honest I never went to the interview because when I researched the company I found out they were a dodgy company, they lied about the job position and stuff too. Only my mum and nan know I didn't go for the job interview though so I had to act like I had been...

Laurel: Luckily I don't see him that often, I don't see my mum's sister, brother-in-law and their kids hardly ever. Before my cousin came to see me a few weeks ago I hadn't seen him since January when it was his sister's husband's 30th birthday and I got the same lecture that day too!!

Next time he gives me a lecture I think I will remind him of the differences of our situation and like you both said, kinda tell him to mind his own business. I love him but we are different people and he has no direct impact on my life, he is not my close family nor my partner so it has nothing to do with him. It'll be kinda hard to explain that to him but like I said I hardly see any of them, they don't really care about us anyways!!

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anyway you need a job thats related to your feild of study, have you tried hospitals?

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Michelle: I would like a job that's related to my field of study. If I start off doing some Office/Administration work for a year or two then I will be able to get my foot in the door as an HR Administrator/Assistant - most of the HR Administrator/Assistant jobs want Admin experience. That's fine by me. I am going to apply for the NHS Graduate Scheme in September (doing HR) if I'm unsuccessful there (which is a very likely probability) then I shall try and apply for Admin jobs or whatever I can in the NHS.

I can't do a Psychology-based job as the Psychology portion of my degree is not covered by the BPS - it's not GBC (Graduate Basis Chartered) as it did not cover any lab work and stuff. I've been thinking of doing a Conversion course at some point - it lasts for a year (full time) but it will give me that creditation!!

But Business + Psychology is good for HR and that's what I want to do (at the moment). I've never been 100% certain of what career I want & I'm still not, but I want to try HR.

My cousin's point is that because the economy is so tough atm and I don't have the relevent experience that I should take just anything and be grateful!!! I'm not going to take just anything though.

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