Is this the one?

How did you know he/she was "the one"?

I myself don't believe that there's just that one person, but how did you realize that this was one that you wanted to be with forever?

I'm very young to be thinking about forever with one person, but yet I find myself thinking just that. There's no pressure, I'm not desperate for anything, I'm not whisking myself off or throwing away anything, it just comes naturally. That feeling that this is the one I'm going to be with. Not many seem to believe me though, which is understandable, but being judged as a fool and being put under the stereotype of immaturity gets to me after awhile. Whenever I do choose to live on my own and with someone else, it isn't too far away. Give or take a few years.

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23 replies since 12th January 2010 • Last reply 12th January 2010

I don't believe there really is a person who is 'the one'. Relationships take a lot of hard work, communication, trust, sacrifice and sometimes just plain heartach. I don't think there is an invisible thread that just binds us together. I'm 35yo, and have been in a few long term (and many short term lol) relationships. Every single one of them have helped me to grow as a person, regardless of wether the relationship was good or bad.
I met Mike 11yrs ago, he was 19 I was almost 25. We were the exact opposite and I never for a second thought that this was the man I'd want to spend the rest of my life with. Because of cirucumstances, life choices and the ability to overlook each others faults we have now been together 11yrs and have a child. I think if anyone asked me after dating Mike for 6mths if I was going to fall in love with him and live happily ever after, I would have laughed in their face.
Love and relationships are great, sometimes tricky, can make us feel safe, can break our hearts into a million pieces, can have us feeling like nothing in the world matters and it's confusing but when you find the one you are most compatible with it's all worthwhile. Good Luck Happy

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I think when you know you've found your soulmate, you just know. After meeting my now husband in the may when I was 19 (he was 23) and spending a month alone with him travelling around Europe in that August, I think shared experiences bond you which helps with the feeling which also means there is no reason to rush anything, cos it only gets better with time! (He's gone grey and I'm ahem, a lot plumper than I was then!) Its a good feeling!

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i am almost 30 and i have been in many relationships, I don't know if there is the one out there, maybe you make the one. Its hard work, you will fight, fall out, get back together, but thats a relationship

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I don't know if I would say "the one". But, I knew because, you don't ever not see them in your life. And you never picture someone else in there place. Also, you don't have to work hard to be together or happy.. And yes shared experiences bond you, very true.

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Agreed - they are definately hard work!

Although if you still fancy them when they never clean the bathroom, do the washing up etc etc & you always have fun with them then its most of the battle! lol x

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lol, men. It is a battle sometimes, there are no fariy tales.

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I think you just know; however, that "knowing" might not be immediate. My boyfriend is, without a doubt, "The One." He started out, though, as my best friend, and even after we started seeing each other, it took quite a bit of trial (mostly because it was long-distance) before we were ready to admit it to ourselves and each other. One day, it just clicked, and I realized that he is, without a doubt, "The One."

It is hard work, but it's worth it. I'd rather be arguing with him about how to fold socks (he's obsessive compulsive) than be having a "good" time with anyone else. Happy

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At the age of 17 I'm surrounded by people who constantly say, "OMG I LOVE YOUUUU!!!" I don't doubt I'll still see this in the future too. Just today my friend told me that her bf wouldn't stop making fun of her her and I asked her why she was still with him. "Because he's "the one"." O_O This is the reason people look down on my relationship.

I was just wondering, is there a relationship where the couple won't seriously fight with each other? I've heard of couples who have been together 30+ years and have never got into a yelling fit. I doubt them sometimes, but some of them actually sounded genuinely true.

Seeing as how my bf sees cleaning time as thinking time... life is wonderful. lol

Has anyone here watched the Pixar movie Up? We plan to travel around the world, but if for whatever reason we can't I wouldn't mind living the way Ellie did.

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Me and my husband Jesse have been together for 3 and a half years now. And we have yet to have a "big" fight. And we have never had a yelling fit.

And I love UP. I was preggo with my youngest, and Jesse was in Iraq when I watched it. Made me cry it was too cute. ~_*

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UP was magical, but having what they had doesn't happen very often

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well, i'm 15 and my bf is exually my first bf so i cant really tell if he's 'the one' yes or no. but i exually don't really care, becouse i just love being with him, and i know he things of it the same way. I just always have this good and safe feeling when i'm around hem. he makes me feel beautiful and loved, i cant stop thinking of him and if i hear his voice or smel his sence (i know its stupid but he just smells so incredebly nice Tongue) i emediatly feel the 'butterfly's' in my stomigh. I just really love him being a bit crazy and he's just always able to chear me up when i'm douwn. we'r dating now for almost 10 months and altough its not very long, we havent been in a fight or something like that. but we dont see eachother to often so its easy not to fiigt, we'r just to happy for that wen we see eachother =) and I can just only hope that he is the guy i always will be with Happy I'm very optimistic, a friend of mine said that you'r first love wil never ever be the one you be with your hole life, i just dont belive her, she just have bad luck with her 15 bf's in her 15 years of living. she cleames the all ware just with her for sex, and now she claimes to be Bi, but i think it's just a cry for atention to be honist :S
but I think that if there is a 'one' that when you see him you'll know. but you will always have to work on your relationship, i already figured that out in 9 and a half monhts ^^

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When you've met the one, you will KNOW it! Everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING will feel RIGHT and you won't wonder whether he/she is the ONE, 'cause there'll be NO DOUBT in your heart or mind.

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have you ever felt that feeling? you seem so sure of what your saying. although i have a bf who i truely love, how can i be sure he's 'the one' mabey i just havent met the one yet and is what i'm feeling now, njust ot the real thing? i think 'the one' is the one you feel comfteble with, buut it doesn't mean it can be only one. mabey you and your 'soulmade' after a wile just don't really love eachother anymore, and you can be open to a new soulmate? could that be posoible? that there maby are more potencial soulmates?

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well Caity you are too young, you have to become emotionaly mature. Alot of people say they find love whn they are 12 or 13, but its more lust then love. When you truely love someone you feel it, its natural, its a strong feeling thats hard to discribe

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