Bachelorette's...

To say I'm seriously disappointed is a major understatement... I got married April 10th and my Maid of Honor/Bridesmaid (which also happens to be my sister) NEVER organised me a bachelorette's or even a night out!! I mean I'm only planning on getting married once and it's supposed to be part of the fun!!
To top it off I was her bridesmaid and I organised her a Pamper Party which took the form of a Champagne Breakfast at a nice hotel and I picked up half the tab!!!!

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9 replies since 20th April 2010 • Last reply 20th April 2010

That kinda sucks but there's no point dwelling about it now. You could always organise a girlie night out? Not quite the same I know, but at least you won't have to worry about being hungover for your wedding day as you've already had it. Speaking of which how did your special day go!? Happy

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Thats pretty crap. Does she know that she's messed up? I can understand why you're miffed as I was a bit slow and only started reading about your wedding the day after you'd got married so I know how much work you put into making the day special and I know that the Hen do/ Bachelorette's do is part of fun. Its also a time when you can unwind and just have fun and let someone else do the organising. Did your husband have a boys night out? If he didn't you could do something together, like celebrate your first month being Mr & Mrs. I do feel for you though and think it maybe worth having a word with your sister and saying how hurt you felt that she didn't arrange anything. She can't turn the clock back but it may help you to get it off your chest as I'm guessing its got nothing to do with money or what she arranged, its the fact that she arranged nothing.

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well it is the thought that counts, Tracy I bet you would of been happy with the girls over at your place drinking wine and being silly. You don't need to go all out for it. But you should talk to her about it, get it off your chest

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I agree with Michelle. Talk to her about it to get it off your chest, but you don't have to go all out. Me and my friends went out last night to celebrate my mates 21st, we went out to a restuarant and wore stupidly bright coloured wigs and drank cocktails and tooks stupid photos, it was well fun. You don't have to have the biggest and best party to have the best memories!!

I still say you should have a girlie night out, because a night or being Mr and Mrs is a nice idea, but defeats the point of the night out. You should go out with your friends and your hubby should go out with his... it sounds like you need it, a night of pure fun!!

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Hi Tracey. After all the effort you put in for your big day the least your sister owes you is an explanation. Be calm when you talk to her as it may end up being one of those family memories that becomes all about your sister and what she didn't do rather than being about your wedding. I really feel for you being let down like that. Hold your head up high though, you gave her a great day for her wedding. Hope she realises how much she has upset you and that things can be sorted out between you.
I hope you had a wonderful day and that you are getting use to writing Mrs......it takes a while. I practiced for ages and thought I could see myself writing the wrong name on some official document Happy

edit....I didn't have what we call a 'Hen night' I was too busy putting a tent up...LOL

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Well she kind of knows that she messed up, and she did apologize - so I'm not angry anymore (just still a bit disappointed)... Anyhow the wedding turned out great!!
Will just throw myself a BIG party next year when I turn 30 to make up for not having a bachelorettes! (wink)

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What a great plan. I'm so pleased the day went well. The photos looked great and I was so impressed that you'd made the dress.

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I'm sure she didn't mean it although it is the expected thing- especially if you did one for her. I have 2 hen nights planned because one was 'save up for' (so it's only reasonable to ask very good friends) and the other's just a meal (for workmates etc').

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Hey honey that sounds like a fab idea!!! You made your own wedding dress? That takes skills!!!

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