Nasty Children

I was walking past the bus stop today to get to my car and I was wearing a skirt I had made out of a pillowcase. Some horrible chavvy girls and one boy were waiting at the bus stop and my heart sunk they were obviously up for mouthing off. The girl said 'Hahaha looks like you're wearing a table cloth' to which I replied it's a pillowcase actually!

This is the first thing I've made that I felt really comfortable wearing out of the house and I've been put right off it now! I don't even think you can really tell it was a pillowcase it's not typical pillowcase style. *sigh*

The irony is that my tutorial for turning a tablecloth into a skirt has been featured perhaps she'd see it and was trying to congratualate me!... then again maybe not! :'(

To make matters worse I got in from the shops to find my neighbours 14 year old son hitting my fence with a wooden plank and throwing stones and generally being a nuisance when I told him to politely 'bugger off' he just told me to go F**k myself. I would tell his mother but she clearly doesn't care it's not the first time I've had to intervene and her attitude is very negative and almost' what do you expect ME to do about it!?'

I am only 21 so not exactly old and passed it, but I don't understand young people being so anti social. I don't want to spoil peoples fun but being nasty about peoples appearances and generally throwing stones is out of order right!?

When I was there age my friends and I went to each others houses, watched movies, cinema, shopping we didn't terrorise the community!

Rant Over!

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33 replies since 25th March 2010 • Last reply 25th March 2010

Kids these days clearly lack the disipline that I have been brought up with. Hello what about the golden rule!!

I seen alot of kids just point blankly say something so aweful that I am ashamed to repeat, most parents just shrug it off saying that they raised their kids to be honest...
but honestly that is not how I see it. I told both my girls that before you say something to think about how that person would feel if it were being told to yourself.

Also as a crafter I love to make my family and friends gifts for birthdays and Christmas, but I refuse to make anything for my two nephews for their "honesty" is very hurtful and dont understand
the meaning behind the gift that I made them, their mom lets them get what they want i.e video games, consoles, cell phones...and they are only 8 and 9...and I dont think they are responsible to have cell phones.


Come on now when I was in school cell phones were not permitted on the grounds and if I missed the bus I would use the pay phone and call my mom collect.

Not to mention some kids get away with their potty mouths because most parents think its amusing and dont do anything to correct it!!

But I am not saying I am the perfect parent either, I just like to enstall morals and family values upon my girls.

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I think sometimes people imagine that there was some golden age when kids were all well-behaved and respected their elders, but the truth is there probably wasn't. Kids seem worse nowadays because you're viewing them from an adult perspective. When I was a kid I stood out a lot because of the way I dressed and caught a lot of stick from both kids and adults, not just insults either, we were spat at and sometimes even set upon just for looking different. You just have to develop a thick skin and not let it get to you (though obv if you are attacked then fight back - they don't like it up 'em).
I have to say that my parents were extremely strict and at home we were seen and not heard, didn't stop my brother throwing stones and nicking stuff when he was out though.
There is definitely less discipline now than there was when I was a kid but I reckon that there is still the same ratio of good kids to bad ones.

Bottom line, if you're gonna dress to attract attention, then you should expect to get attention, accept the good and ignore the bad=)

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yea it seems young people these days are angry and have very little respect. but also being a teenager is miserable- i'm in my twenties now but i remember how awful it was- darn hormones- so i think some teens take out that miserable-ness and project it on others. bullies make fun of anyone and everyone and i swear they can smell fear. doesn't matter if the bully is 15 or 35, they will find someone to pick on and make themselves feel better, or to make other people like them. about your neighbor boys will be boys, his response to you and his mother's attitude however are not acceptable. sorry you had a bad day! but don't let it discourage you from wearing things you made. I ADORE the tablecloth idea and can make one since my butt is too big for a pillow case Happy

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I don't think you should jump the gun and categorise 'young people', this aggravates me because I get classed as a young person myself as I'm 19 but I'm not like that at all. But on the other hand I totally agree with you about how SOME of the young people are these days, I'm assuming you mean people that are younger than me though because I personally think it's to do with the entertainment. When most people at school had mobile phones I was allowed to take my mum's old phone but only turn it on when I was walking home just in case something were to happen. I was allowed out after school until it got dark, I wasn't restricted to the end of my road, but we enjoyed racing around and building tree houses. 'I want never gets' is what my parents used to say to me and I can only thank them for how they bought me up. I look at some people and feel ashamed that I get put in the same category as them! All it is now is games consoles, mobile phones and getting whatever they want because their parents don't want to argue. I feel intimidated sometimes but just hold your head high and ignore them! At least you have creativity, I don't think any kids are encouraged to use their minds these days! I say carry on using your imagination! :-D

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I feel for you Minnie as its not nice when you get grief for trying something new or different. The issue of kids behaviour has been something I've thought about a lot over the years as I've worked with young people for about the last 10 years. Initially it was with homeless young people and now its mental health. I think there are several problems at work here - for one the cost of living is so high now that both parents are working all hours they can in some cases to keep up. I think this can lead to guilt and then money being thrown at kids to keep them happy. I also think kids in the UK are under so much more stress now then they were when I was growing up. My niece was stressing about exams when she was 8 (I think) and I think when you start giving children adult responsibilities and stresses things are bound to go pear shaped. I see how some of the little ones are dressed now and they are wearing short skirts and sexy tops at about 11 and thats wrong too. I don't know what the answer is unfortunately.

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That's terrible...teenagers can be so rude and mean! I feel really intimidated wearing things I've made, ESPECIALLY clothing, out of the house, and I can imagine how terrible it would feel to be insulted like that. At least you are creative and don't have to put others down!

(Also, please don't hate all teenagers! I'm 14! Don't hate meeee! Tongue)

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I just want to say when I'm saying 'young people' I don't mean ALL! I just was referring to the ones who upset me today. I don't hate young people at all I work with young people with mild to severe learning difficulties from all walks of life so it isn't young people I have 'BEEF' with. It's more the young people or any kind of people who have little or no respect for anybody who is slightly different or even not particularly different at all.

I just had to express myself my neighbours son was the final straw, I don't see why I should have to put up with a stupid teenage boy in my own home! (Though to be fair all my neighbours have had enough of him and his mother they aren't the nicest people! :S )

So in summary sorry for tarnishing all young people as oiks... didn't mean to. I'm only 21 myself I still feel like a teen tbh! I just wish more parents would bring up their kids like I was , cos I had a great childhood and am so fortunate and lucky for that. It was just a shock to be upset by different groups of teenagers twice separately in one day!

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Spank 'em. People typically act trashy when they think they can get away with it, so when you do address them do so with authority. The kid throwing rocks, ask him to politely stop, don't be intimidated, remind his mom again that you don't appreciate the damage he's doing to your property. If she still lets it slide let her know you'll take matters into your own hands if it happens again. So if you're big enough, throw rocks back at him (j/k) or call the cops.
Don't trip about the insults, never take what an overly emotional brat has to say too seriously. Insults hurt, but more likely the kid is acting out because they have issues in their own life, but that is NEVER an excuse to attack or demean anyone else including strangers. And you have no reason to tolerate it.

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Hi Minnie you are not alone (just look at all these people supporting you!).

I have disastrous children living next door too. Two boys. They were young when they moved in (about 3 and 5) and now they are both at school (about 8-10) and from day one they have been a nightmare. They climb the fence, irritate my dogs, chuck things and are generally rude and annoying. To top it off the parents do nothing but scream at the kids so no discipline is ever put in place. Last year (i believe in a bid by the parents to get some P&Q) they put up a climbing frame/cubby right next to the fence so it is really easy for them to annoy me and my family in our own home. Its at the point where I actually dislike being in my own back yard, which is a shame as I love gardening. My only hope is that they will grow up quickly or move out soon!

When you are out and about don't be ashamed to wear your creations. You have the skill and the imagination to make something from scratch and not many people have that to be proud about in these days of convenience.

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Not all young people are badHappy I'm 18 and I'd never do something like that, my 14 yr old brother wouldn't either. He actually holds doors open for women, he's done that since he was a tot, he's sweet. But I do know what you mean.

I made a skirt out of old ties when I was in junior high and a bunch of other kids took it upon themselves to tell me how ugly it was and "accidentally" spilled juice on me. I went to their parents and one girls mom told me I shouldn't wear ugly things if I didn't want my clothes to get ruined. Point is kids like that are usually to blame because of the parents. At least in my experience.

Lot's of people don't appreciate homemade, sad but true. And I'm sure your skirt looked greatHappy

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Oh, I didn't want you to take offence to that, I know you didn't mean all young people. Just annoys me when people say young people as I'm in that category, and I'm nothing like that... honestly! Happy Good on you for feeling young still, lots of people say they feel old at 21 so go you! Having to put up with this crap in your own home though is extreme! Unfortunately for us though, the coppers over here tend to concentrate on the people making a majority of the crimes, and pretty much ignoring the rest! Bad times. But we're all behind you, and I look up to you for wearing your own clothes out! Just think of all the clothes we buy from shops, someone had to make it and wear it before it went to the shops! Sorry again if my initial post came across wrong! :-S

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Your table cloth skirt was the reason I joined this community. I think its great.
I tend toward the opinion that its not just children and teenagers that are awful. Like unruly dogs, bad people are everywhere and are not a new phenomena.
Make sure you are one of the good people and spread a good influence around. Wearing clothes and having ideas you've generated yourself is definitely a good thing

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@Ruby not offended at all! I was afraid I'd offended you! Happy

@gemma Wow really you joined because of my skirt! That's made my day!

Thanks for all the sweet comments! I haven't had any nasty teens hurling abuse at me today! Hehe! It is sad I just wish people were more tolerant and we could all get along... I wish! xx

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i think its kinda interesting how disipline is slowly just leaving nowadays (oh and when i say kids or young ppl it an understood most just like when u gripe about men or women in english we learned about understood you so i changed it 2 most ) they r all just rotten and mean but through many years it is diminishing also stuff like manners it really bothers me 2 i was raised with yes mam no mam yes sir no sir u dont yell at adult and especially not ur parents i mean me and my brothers got in trouble it was go get a switch so therefore through the generations there is im never gonna treatt my kids the way i was treated and now u spank ur kid u get em taken away its rediculous thats why alot r pretty rotten nowadays i get looked at pretty funny by the young kids in my apt complex bc of some of the stuff ive made or they just think it is so weird that im spinning or knitting its rediculous and minnie i loved ur tutorial i bet ur skirt was awesome it just really bothers me how ppl treat each other over all now adays

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