hmm i just noticed something..

i dont usually like to express my feelings but idk the people on here seem very freiendly with advice and such. so id like some feedback if youd be so kind.
I had this boyfriend i broke up with him along time ago cant say how long ago, but when i did i figured out that i really loved him, so i tried to get back with him.. w were on and off he was scared to trust me again, i gave him time. he got a new girlfriend he was with her for 2 months of which like a month he was still telling me things like how he wanted to be wit me and such, sooner or later he figured he really did love me and trusted me enough to be back with me. he broke it off with the other girl and came back to me. Im with him now and happy. but i notced theres still somthing that bothers me, that i am not as good as that recent ex of his. that if i were to do something wrong he would directly go back to her. she is three years older then I, and i think that is why i feel so...incompetent?
pretty much comparing myself to her. And it doesnt help that his parents are still iffy with me.I'm never good with parents so im terribly shy and akward when it comes to his parents. it just brings me down soo much. it sucks.
Can someone just like give me som advice on this best you could?

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12 replies since 24th March 2010 • Last reply 24th March 2010

Something like this happend to me and I feel the same way.. like I feel that shes better than me in every way... Like is he dumping you for her or are you just scared he will? But you have to think that if he broke up with her for you, you must be better than her... because if she was better, why would he leave her for you? Try to stay positive... Things may be bad, but they can only get better after some time. Sorry if I suck at typing adivce lol. I should really take my own adive aswell...~

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no no this is fine! haha thank you, and I'm scared he will break up with me.
but your right i should be more positive. i just need like reassurance you know? like that
im not like ehh over thinking or something.
but thank you i appreciate it :}

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No problem~ Like what happend to me is my bf and me took a little break to see if we would be better off together or not, but he met a girl on Gaia Online and now he wont get back with me because he sais he likes her,, but he still loves me. I feel bad because like they have more in common and stuff, and he always talks about stuff thats happend to her. :c It scares me though cause she's just online, she could be lying about every thing she sais. Like I bet your real name isn't Fruitmuni c: Well, I hope that everything works out for you, please don't try to overwork yourself~ ^^

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ah thats awful. how could he love you and just do that to you. >.>
i hope everything works out for you too lyxal !
i was just on gaiaonline o.o haha although i have like nothing T-T

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If he left her to be with you..... then is she really better than you? She must have been lacking something for him to want to be back with you.

I have a similar problem with my boyfriend, but I decided that I would just enjoy my time with him and not spend all my time worrying about if/when he is going to leave me.

Take heart, and remember that he loves you and wants to be with you.

K/x

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I agree with Kimmi, if he really loved you more than her then she couldn't have been all that brilliant.
I know it's difficult but just try and enjoy yourselves, think back to what got you two together in the first place
Time heals all wounds, so hopefully time will patch things over between you two, don't forget you've not long been back together...

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I wish I had advice.... basically all I have to say is that if someone truly loves you, they will be with YOU, not someone else. Otherwise, they are misusing "the L word" to keep you waiting for when they get bored and go back to you so they have "someone."

I hope I'm not offending anyone... its the drugs talking...... ;)

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thank you all,
i appreciate it :}

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I think you need to hold onto the fact that he's with you. You also have history which can go a long way too. Could I ask how old (roughly) you all are? I only ask this as you said she was 3 years older than you. It sounds like there could be a little bit of an age gap which I think can make one half of a couple feel a bit insecure. You could talk to him about how your feeling. I wouldn't say to him that you're comparing yourself to her, just that you're feeling really crap and not sure if your good enough, or something along those lines. I hope that makes sense.

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One of the sexiest things to a guy is for his girl to be confident. (unless he's a jerk who likes to walk all over his lady) Anyways, realize that you are unique. There is no other like you and he noticed that. If you continually compare yourself to another girl, he will too. Eventually he will get annoyed. Just be you. Don't let some chick bother you. She's probably shacked up with some skank dude anyway...that whore.lol Do you feel better now? ;)

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I think you need to be honest with him, tell him how you feel. Don't let those thoughts get the better of you.

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You dont need to be comparing yourself to some other girl. You should be happy with who you are and say LOOK this is me its who i always will be deal with it. If you dont like it..shove off. Dont feel you are less better than someone else. And to be honest. He obviously keeps running back to this same girl because he seems like a complete jerk and no one but her is going to have him. You need to be with someone who accepts you for you. (:

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