ASPERGER SYNDROME IS DRIVING ME NUTS!!!

my brother has asperger syndrome. He is 10 and has been diagnosed for about... half a year I think...

anyway HE MAKES ME WANT TO STAND ON MY TWO DOGS TAILS!!!

1. He comes into my room when Im getting changed . he knows he shouldnt but does it anyway! I will be there trying to get my top off and he comes in and says something like... " hey loz can I go on the Wii..." "GET OUT OF MY ROOM YOU PIG!!!!!!" and tells mom that he did nothing wrong!!!

2. His mood swings are out of control! he is happy one minute then just snaps over something tiny. He will then lash out at me I want to hit him back but mum tells me to not get involved and go to my room so I sit there in my bed covering my ears and crying because he will try to hit mum and I cant help her.

3. he embaresses me in frount of everyone... If my friends are over he MUST come up to them and say something about m which most of the time isnt even true... "me: hey do you want to watch more anime in my room again?"
Best friend: yeah sure cant wait to see the next episode of an..
Brother: LAUREN WAS A LESBIAN ONCE YOU KNOW!!!
me: ...
Best friend: ... oookaayy

there is more but Im to tired to type right now...

I love him but sometimes he can be realy hurtful he is making me realy stressed so Im end up taking it out on my friends who just try to be nice...

dose anyone have any tips or something to help me I realy need it...

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8 replies since 29th May 2011 • Last reply 29th May 2011

Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do besides trying to ignore it and overcome it. Don't you be embarrassed but what happens. Let your friends know what about him and what might happen and a way they can deal with him.
You can try, however, telling him before hand what he should not do. Such as, "do not come into my rooom." Or even rewarding him with something small or praise him when he does something good.
Hope that helps.

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Asperger Syndrome is a really difficult thing to deal with, because you brother will look and feel normal to everybody, except the ones who know he's got this syndrome.

First of all, always remember this: people with Asperger's syndrome usually can't recognize people's feelings and emotions. Probably your brother hasn't got the clue that he's upsetting you doing or saying something. He probably doesn't even grasp the concept of "upset". He might be doing it out of curiosity to know whether you'll react each time exactly the way you did last time. And the time previous.

Also consider 10-years-old boys tend to be terrible and mean to their older sisters, whether or not they have Asperger's.

I strongly suggest you read "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" by Mark Haddon. Christopher, the protagonist, is a boy who suffers from Asperger's Syndrome, and all the story is seen through his eyes. It is a very interesting and well-written thriller, very pleasant to read, and while you enjoy the story you'll have the chance to experience how you brother sees things.

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lacey and mary both have excellent suggestions i would also do some serious online research sounds like your mom could use some help coping with this to.maybe u need to talk to her about the 2 of you working together to help your brother.

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My brother-in-law has aspergers but his is a very mild case. When we first met him he was just very awkward and I only saw him freak out once. Now though he is very very comfortable around us. So that was what I had to do: just give it time. I don't know if that will work with your brother though. I think your parents need to try to a least talk to him a little bit. I do believe it will get better though.

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wow... thankyou all for your comments

Lacey when I read your post I talked to him and asked him not to come into my room In the mornings because Im getting changed... and he said
"sorry I didnt realise... OKAY!!! I will not come in I will wait." Gave me a big hug and continued to watch TV with me. (thanks it helped)

Mary;) I am now reading that book and your right! It is helping me understand my brother more because Im conecting what Christopher does to what what my brother dose and he makes more sence!!!

blufairy I talked to mum and she said she could get me involved in one of those meetings where I could meet other brothers or sisters you are going through the same thing as me.

Veronies thankyou I hope things will get better as well.


THANK YOU ALL

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(PS I NEVER A LES) just to clear things up...

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My grandson has Asperger's Syndrome; he's nineteen and lives with me. He has certain things that he seems to have to do every day-a schedule, if you will. If you don't like what your brother does, show him something different to do at a particular time. For instance, you said he comes into your room when you don't want him to. Actually show him what you want him to do instead of coming into your room. Aspergers are very intelligent people, they just don't know how to communicate with others. One thing they don't like is to be yelled at. Also, they take everything literally; they don't understand nuance. Be patient. Try to understand his differences and welcome them. Here's a person that really needs your love, understanding and kindness. Instead of getting angry at what he says or does, stop and think, "what is he trying to say to me?" If he doesn't respond correctly orally, tell him exactly what he should be saying in a certain situation. This will help him tremendously and he'll start feeling better about himself. You can have a very positive influence in your brothers' life. Good luck, Pat

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patricia s...

thankyou I love my brother... I realy do I guess I just havnt been showing him that enough...

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