Forgive and forget??
Can you?? I can't seem to, any suggestions?
It depends on what it is, if its something silly then yes.
But something that affects trust, betrayal and bullying I find just can't seem to either mostly because I've made the mistake of forgiving and forgetting and the person I forgave totally messed me over countless times after. But thats the past and I'm a stronger person now.
I could forgive, but I CANNOT forget, mental scarring lives on for me, and may come back to haunt me.
Sometimes I can & sometimes I can't.
I'm starting to figure out its mostly in myself - if I'm angry at something & it's all "over" Maybe I'll talk it out if I know that person well & see where it takes me.
But if it's been talked to death & I STILL can't move on.
Then I usually think it's time for a little self evaluation
But!...I never forget
I'm a nightmare for this! I can usually forgive depending on how bad whatever happened was but I cannot forget. I still remember kids that picked on me when I was three... not that I hold grudges or anything
I have found that not forgiving only hurts me, not the other person.Forgiveness is lifting off a load from me.I dont have to carry the grudges and hate or any thing.I can be free if I forgive.
well, it's just that my hubby and I are constantly at each others throats and he says stuff that bites, big time bites. I believe that don't say anything in the heat of the moment because once you say it you can never take it back, never. I had a cousin that screamed at her husband to get out and never come back. Guess what, he died in an accident 2 hours later. She's still struggling with the fact that the last thing she ever said to him was in anger. I dunno. I'm just trying to see my way through. Thanks for the help and suggestions. xo
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