Mental Illness Rant
I have Depression, and I've had it as long as I can remember, and last time I went to the doctor, He said I may have social anxiety as well.
Any way, I have these friends, two sisters, and they are driving me nuts! Whenever someone mentions mental illness, they're always like 'I have that, but more severe. Its not even that bad.'They're obviously faking it. One of them, wants to have problems. She's always bragging about how many times she has to go to the doctor. She even said she gets her sister to cut her, because she wants to be 'emo' but cant bear to hurt herself. And she complained that her 'cuts' healed too fast. Once she told me I didnt fit in with our group, because I didnt hurt myself. At that point in time, I was pretty much hurting myself every night.( I've since stopped doing it frequently). One of our friends, has really bad anxiety, and was going to the therapist most days, so the therapist told her to have the rest of the term off (about 7 weeks). And now the other friend, keeps having a go at her, calling her a wimp and all this other horrible stuff. And, all this stuff triggers me/ makes it worse.
And, (almost done I promise) my mum is driving me nuts, because I was meant to go back to the doctors like 2 or more months ago.. but she hasnt even been bothered to try and make an appointment. Normally you have to wait at least 2 weeks for an appointment after you book it. And, my medication isnt working, so I really want to go see the doctor, and hopefully he'll be able to fix it up. At the last appointment (10 or so weeks ago) I got a referral to see a councillor/ therapist (not exactly sure what she is) about my social anxiety. I dont want to go, but I know I should. And its bothering me, because Mum should know thats what would be best for me, and make an appointment. Grr. But whenever my brother needs something done, she'll do it. Ugh, I wont even go into the favouritism thing :/
Phew. That feels better.
If your friends are faking it and it really bugs you that much, find a way to embarrass them and show how deceitful they're trying to be just so they can get attention.
I have really intense social anxiety, but around my birthday last year, my physician recommended temazepam for my anxiety since I'm allergic to a lot of prescription drugs like sleeping pills and non-prescription painkillers like Advil. Temazepam worked really well for me, and even though I got the prescription for a 30-day supply 9 months ago, I stopped really needing the pills after the first week and a half.. I still have a couple left if I really need them. I still have occasional anxiety attacks, but I usually quiet them with chamomile tea and a relaxing activity.
If your mom isn't willing to put forth the effort to make an appointment for you, do it yourself if you're old enough to. If things feel really bad, maybe try talking to another adult you can trust.
Speaking of adults, if your friends are really as big of arses as they sound like, talk to their mom about how stupid they're acting... maybe their mom will whip them into shape.
i´m sorry you´re in such a situation, i´m not very good in comforting, but i wanted to answer you because you hit a topic that´s going on my nerves for a long time: you wrote about your friend that insist that she has a mental illness.
i don´t want to offense anyone who suffer from it, i´m quiet annoyed by some people these days, because nearly everyone seems to have burnout, borderline, eating disorder, this cutting thing, etc. these people who pretend to have these illnesses, i don´t know why, maybe they want attention, kind of "destroy" the actual reliability of these deseases and make people who really have problems and suffer a lot from that look like a fool.
that was a rant in a rant
as monica said you should make an appointment by yourself if your mother don´t bother. from what you´re writing you take it really seriously and you know that you need some help. please don´t be silly and risk to make it worse just because another person (who should do everything to make you feel better btw) don´t bother.
I have quite bad chronic depression but I refuse to use meds because my previous ones made me even worse and I don't want to be dependant on pills my entire life.
I think it's horrible that someone would pretend that they have a mental illness. They just want attention. Having a mental illness won't make them cool or better than everyone else.
I can totally sympathise with you hun, I've suffered from depression since I was 12 in varying cycles from severe to mild and it is something that geniunely impacts lives and shouldn't be glorified as something "cool". In my worst times I couldnt face getting out of bed and got really fatigued and ended up dropping out of college when i was 19 and last year I ended up nearly having a breakdown at work because of the anxiety it caused and had about a month off work. People who made it worse and "friends" who encouraged it I got out of my life and it goes for the better. I've found it hard at times but I've found what works for me, strangely enough its through my crafting and having people I can talk to if it gets too much, I was on antidepressants but they made me feel worse.
All I can say hun is if these people treat you like this they aren't true friends and don't deserve to be your friend. Find what works for you, talk to the GP about treatment options. Having a support system whether at home, school, college or work even here on CO+K helps, someone you can turn to when you need to vent, talk or just cry. Do things that make you happy, set yourself goals (even something small is a big boost psycologically)
Hope this helps (sorry about the essay) xx
I think I have depression but I'm too scared to go to the doctors. I can't got with my parents because they believe depression isn't something real, and when I went to the doctors about my anxiety (I actually managed to go alone! :O ) I wasn't allowed to take the medicine because of its possible side effects of A) depression if it was prescribed for anxiety or B) anxiety if it was prescribed for depression. Weird world.
I'd suggest getting new friends, a better support base, and if you 16+ you can usually make your own appointments for the doctors or to see a counselor, another suggestion would be to talk to your schools Guidance counselor, they could help, or at the very least, talk to your mom, until she does what you need.
I hope things start to look up for you!
1) Time for new friends-cutting is not cool, and neither are mental illnesses. Cutting is a sign of serious depression and a person who needs some major intervention.
2) The next time that you feel the need to cut, or other wise harm yourself call the hospital, or mental health hospital. They can step in to give you some of the attention that you need, like getting you meds adjusted or having an extended stay (which would be a nice reprieve from mom, brother, friends, major life stressors that are getting you down, etc.).
3) Mental health issues tend to run in families, so mom may have some undiagnosed issues of her own. No one can help you better than yourself. The fact that you are seeking help is awesome-big pat on the back for you!
Finding the right medication is not easy, I'm still working on that one myself. Come to find out I not only have depression, but sever anxity and ADHD--no wonder my meds were not helping a lot!!
All we can do is give you ideas and an ear to vent to, its up to you where you are going to take it! Good Luck, and feel free to say hey if you need anything-ideas, encouragement, etc etc! I dont bite :-p
I dont know how any one that really has an illness ,can in any way call it cool..oh my.I know to how it really is.Im so much better now than when I was younger, but I have been there and its not something a sane person would want.I hope you get away from those people.Terrible way to be about illness that is really bad to have..
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