Some days the only cure is a good cry... and maybe a cookie

I'm only 25 and I'm already feeling the weight of stress on my body as if I were 50. This seems to be the summer of drama, deaths, and painful decisions. Some days it's all I can do to just keep my head above water. All I want to do is run away from the problems and take a vacation from reality but the only problem with that is it'll be right here waiting for me afterward. They say "God never puts more on you than you can bare" and I truly hope I don't have to bare much more or it truly will be too much to bare (tongue twister, blagh...).

I'm not one that cries easily but there are days when I'd give almost anything to be able to just weep like a baby and get it all out (But I'll take mild sobbing while nibbling a chocolate chip cookie too).

Right now the only thing keeping me going is knowing God has a plan for me, that my family and hubby love me, and things will eventually get better... I hope...

Sometimes you just feel lower than dirt and that nothing can redeem you or pull you out from depression. What keeps you going when you're in the slumps? How do you "make it out alive" after a really crappy month or even just a SUPER crappy day?

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7 replies since 17th May 2011 • Last reply 17th May 2011

When I'm having a super crappy day/week/month whatever I always try to do something that makes me happy. The more guilty the pleasure is, the better. Lets say you like the movie "The Rocky Horror Picture Show" why dont you try watching it? Read a trashy romance novel OR my personal favorite, make up a batch of cake batter just to sample it raw and lick the beaters.

I personally love going to the bird sanctuary and I very rarely get to go so if I'm ever really depressed I might try to visit it.

I completely believe that laughter is the best medicine so try to laugh (even if it seems like it's impossible at the time) Do anything you can to laugh. You can laugh about anything - find some funny videos on "Youtube" with silly people doing stupid things. You should really also go to the website "cuteoverload" it's too cute for words I often find myself either laughing or saying "awww" the posts on that site will make you feel so warm inside.

Here's the link: http://cuteoverload.com/

Also, you should really try being selfish for a day. Take an extra long bubble bath, don't do any household chores, don't worry about the things that are bothering you so much even for one day, pamper youself and stop making excuses as to why you can't have a day to yourself (most women do this). Clear your schedule (even for a few hours) and make the most of your time. Chances are if you take the time to relax you will be more level-headed and ready to deal with whatever comes your way.

I know that not worrying is easier said than done most times but I've honestly started learning how to save myself from the effects of chronic worrying. For example I'm the type of person who worries mostly at night while laying in bed and the more I get to thinking about things that worry me the more worked up an anxious I get and I can no longer sleep and I start to feel depressed so I've begun saying to myself "Forget about everything right now. You can't do anything about it now. Go to sleep, enjoy your rest and take care of it tomorrow" and I've been sleeping better and feeling better.

Good luck and I hope you feel better!

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God will take care of you! I've had the year of painful decisions, break ups, and several deaths, and I made it through. I like to watch a Hilary Duff movie, particularly The Perfect Man, and eat raw cookie dough! Another good movie is It's Complicated for that mood. Sometimes I'll watch Titanic and get out a "good cry" myself. It can even be better to watch a sad movie by yourself so you can wail and punch pillows! I definitely have my slumps and, even though there's no cure-all, these things are what tend to help me.
Always remember there's tons of stuff here on CO+K to get you in a good mood, as well as wonderful people to help you get through stuff. Feel free to message me if you ever need someone to talk to. I'm a very odd, understanding person and I don't judge people very easily. Everyone has slumps, and remember, it's a slump, not a downfall. You'll get back up. =)

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Not every one feels the same, but for me its Prayer.
Haveing a talk with Jesus is always a big help to me.If I didnt have him to talk to , I may as well not get up in the morning.
Read the bible and talk to the lord, this has got me thu so much.
Im thankful to have the lord.

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Aw, thanks so much you guys. Hearing a kind word from a stranger is truly a blessing =^_^=
I've been avoiding house work for a month and I think I'm finally ok enough to face cleaning the house (at the very least). I made dinner tonight! Yay! Hubby washed dishes while I dried then we watched a good Esther Williams movie (I LOVE Million Dollar Mermaid!!!!). I think the only thing I can do on down time to help myself is just constantly talk to God. Sometimes I'll ask for just the littlest rays of hope in some odd specific form and then boom, a subtle reply that says "Shabam! You got it!"

One of the things that depresses me from time to time is the fact that I've gained weight and haven't been able to lose it for 5 years. I've come to terms with it and learned to love myself as I currently am... but it would be nice to get the courage and will power to drop it off again. I used to run and play sports but that all stopped when my chest grew to big to be tamed by any man made bra apparatus -__-

Fear not! There is hope yet! I found a cardio and fat burn Hula dance work out that's set to luau music with a very sweet encouraging host. It's fun and after 5 minutes of dancing you realize that as you're having fun, you're sweating like a pro wrestler. I've started cleaning up my eating habits, drinking mostly water (maybe one soda a day), and taking a food based multi vitamin and it's really helped me get out of my funk and feel better. I think I can move on up the ladder of the to do list ^_^

Thanks again for all your kind words. I'll DEFINITELY be employing your suggestions! (Especially the bubble bath one.. *Homer Simpson voice* Mmmm.... bubble baths....)

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This sounds wonderful! The movies, the exercising, the bubble baths. Exercising is clinically proven to release endorphins, the "feel good" hormones in your body- keep it up! I'm glad you've got the motivation. If you can find something that's exercising and fun, go for it. I'm going to get a trampoline tomorrow!
Just remember the things that make you happy. <3

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I'm sorry things have gotten so bad for you and I truly hope they get better soon. Can only go up hill from here right?
When I'm upset I just curl up in bed and sleep, I get so exhausted that normally I'm out like a light as soon as my head hits the pillow. I also listen to a a lot of music, I make a playlist then listen to the whole thing and I try to build it like a story line. It starts out how I'm feeling then I work it up until it's really happy songs that make we want to get up and dance, that always manages to work me out of my funk.
Another thing I do is I invite a friend over and we both lounge on a couch under some blankets and watch shows/movies that we loved when we were younger. Back to simpler times!
Also eat bananas! My friend just told me that she learned in class that bananas have natural chemicals that make you happy! Happy

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I totally agree with Charmander. Music and friends do wonders. I hang out with my best friend of 13 years (who is basically my sister now) everynight and we talk and laugh (a lot) and it's usually always the best part of my day. Having someone to talk to and laugh with can seriously be the best medicine. Don't bother with the people who make you feel sad and surround yourself with the people who make you happy and it will make all the difference.

My brother is seriously the worst person I've ever known so I made it a point not to bother with him at all. I have not "talked" to him in years the most I say is "yes" or "no" when we happen to end up in the same room and my life is better. Sometimes, when you know a relationship can't be salvaged, you just have to cut the ties so that you'll both feel better. If my brother were to ever grow up and get his act together and not be such an... (enter explicit word) to my parents and myself then maybe I would slowly bring him into my life but I'm not going to waste my time with him now when his prescence only makes me feel horrible.

Also, getting back to the music thing I have 1 song that I always sing and listen to when I'm scared or sad because of the music video. It's an old Greenday song and the video is hillarious and when I sing it I start to feel invincible and I'm not so scared or sad anymore because during that time that I'm singing it nothing can touch me.

Here's the link to it (if you are interested):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5gz2d6BbaE

Another song that's great for making me feel better is a song by Florence and the Machine. It's called "The dog days are over" and when I listen to it I can't help but feeling like I should be getting up and twirling Happy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wi75BBkLqs

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