Drama, drama, and more drama

Every little thing just has to be expanded and everybody has to get ticked off at everyone else. I am so sick of it! My friends are mad at me because I accepted an invitation to a party hosted by a girl they don't like. They invited me to go bowling with them after I had accepted the other invite and are now ticked that I "blew them off" for the other girl. I couldn't just turn and tell the girl who invited me to her party when I'd already agreed because of another ivitation that I got AFTER the one I'd already accepted. I explaned it to them several times but they just don't get it! I don't see why turning down a invitation to go bowling because of other plans is such a big deal! It really frustrates me.

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9 replies since 26th March 2011 • Last reply 26th March 2011

The world is getting busier everyday. And spare/free time is getting less and less. So they are upset that you rather spend your time with someone they don't like than with them.

I can't think of another reason but this one.
Some people can't look outside the box. And in that box there is only place for nice things and there own friends.

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I think you totally did the right thing and your friends are just being really immature. If they are stubborn and mad at you I'd say let them get over it, hang out with people you don't normally hang out with and wait for this whole thing to blow over. You should be allowed to go hang out with all different people and not be confined to one group, you know?
I know people just like the ones you are talking about and they are very hard to deal with. There's nothing I can say but to stay calm, be the bigger person, and do what you want to do.

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Sounds like the immature behavior you get from teenagers who create drama. Don't let it get you down. Don't back down from what you've already decided- you're doing the right thing. And don't bother explaining it to them again as clearly, they are going to be insulted and upset no matter what. It's their choice to wallow in immature, childish and negative behavior- you're above it.

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I have to wonder why they don't like the girl whos party you are going to. They obviously feel threatened by her and I think if you knew why then you could understand their behavior more. Is there any possibility that they are jealous of her spending time with you? They obviously were not invited to the party...from their perspective they probably feel hurt and a little jealous that you were. They most likely won't admit this but I would suggest you tread delicately. I am assuming other people know they were excluded.

I would go to the party and have a good time. You are doing the polite and mannerly thing to do by fulfilling your RSVP. Maybe you should make plans to hang out with your other group of friends. If the party girl wants to spend time with you while you are with the bowling girls I would suggest you tell her "no" for the same reason you told them. Be fair. Happy Good luck.

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Good friends wouldn't put you in a monkey-in-the-middle drama situation. I would talk to them and ask them what their real problem is with the girl whose party you went to. Maybe your larger group of friends thinks you're cooler than they are and that's why they don't want you to hang out with other people. I've had a bunch of friends in the past who were so socially inept that they would ask ME if something was okay for THEM to do rather than just doing it... and if I wanted to do something other than spend time with them, they'd get jealous of the other people I wanted to spend time with.

The best thing you can do is try to get down the root of the problem and be fair to everyone in the meantime. That being said, always stick up for yourself and people who are genuinely nice to you.

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Relationships must be free, not controlling. All your life you will encounter situations like this, don't let anyone control you!
Some friends might think they own you, but it is up to you, to set them straight, and let them know early in life that you are your own person and as such, you make your own decisions. True friends, will respect you for it, and will accept you with open arms.

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well they are being immature abou the situation, real friends shouldnt care who your friends with as long as you arent around them with her, they just seem jealous maybe.

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They're just being dumb. Not liking that girl has a LOT to do with it too. If it were any other girl they knew and liked then it wouldn't have become such a big deal. I'm with you, I hate drama. I seem to be swimming in it myself these days.

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Of course everything blew over in a day or two, like it usually does. Everything is just like it was, for the time being. I went back to school on the Monday afterwards and it was as if nothing had happened. Now we'll be fine untill the next fight.....

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