One of my best friends is ruining her own wedding!
I don't know Shelia, could backfire and she could end up loosing her friends.
it seems that this couple does not have open communication at all.
i feel like family shouldnt matter nor friends...the marriage is a bond between the couple...its to join together and become one...they should find a compromise...marriage is not a one day celebration and a life time commitment...neither of our families were there even tho we wanted them there we were just so far away but it was for us and noone really mattered
I agree Michelle- and unless she makes out the laundry list of things they need to discuss its possible they wouldn't even talk about the things they need to talk about.
If they can't communicate what hope is there for their relationship. They both need to stop unloading onto other people too. They are supposed to have each other to talk to. There is only so much a person can take in that situation before it starts causing them distress and worry that they might say something by accident that causes more distress.
Thanks for the idea, Sheila. I used to live really close to them in PA but I live in South Dakota now. I'm going back to PA for a week over Spring break, and I know they both want to see me.
I want to talk to both of them at the same time because if they're both there, and I "take sides" I can usually get them to agree with me and come out better for it after the conversation is over. I really want to see her family at their wedding, and I know her fiance does too since he was so worked up over her not wanting them there.
They have some issues they need to work out, and I'm going to do what I can to help them all the while staying as neutral as I can. Sometimes I'm the voice of reason for both of them, so I'm going to use that talent as much as I can to make sure things go in the right direction for their relationship.
Good luck Monika. You truely are a good friend to both of them. I hope that they can see a way to compromise. It would be so sad for them to start married life with issues that could damage their relationship in the future. I hope you get to go to the ceremony with good feelings too. Many blessings for a resolution x
Thanks so much, Sheila. You've really helped me out. I have a feeling that both of them are going to get a straightening-out when I see them in a few weeks! lol
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