Dude! Just Don't TOUCH!

I'm trying not to scream right now!
My grandmother jst tore the legs off one of my sketches that I juat spent over an hour perfecting! To be fair, I do sketch WAY lightly and she probably didn't even SEE it, but seriously? I turned my back for all of two minutes, sat back down and...
I generally don't care about people touching my things, but I HATE it when people touch my tools! Paper, pencils, pens, eraser, notebook, sketchbook, beads, fabric, clay, chocolate, all the other etceteras... this is the sacred stuff! Why don't people understand that? Can you not tell the difference between drawing paper and scratch paper, generic pencils and art pencils, your markers and my Pantones? Is it really so hard to understand that I might feel very upset if you show no regard for the fact that I probably can't replicate that, ever? Couldn't you ask, or better yet, get up, take the 5 steps to the mesada and get a piece of scrach paper?! Not hard!!
I know most people think I'm unreasxonably bitchy, but Please! Tell me I'm not the only one who is possessive of one's art, angry when it is blatantly disregarded and feels like crying when it's lost?!

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19 replies since 4th December 2010 • Last reply 4th December 2010

maybe you should tell her nicely that you don't want her to use your items

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I spent hours on a collage for my dad to use at one of his art classes to use as an example.. My dad is so un-organized!! One of his students has my art now.. they took off with it and he didnt even notice.. or appoligize to me for being so careless with it!

so I totally get how angry you are

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@Michelle: Yeah, but the point is that one can ask until one's face turns blue, people still don't get it. And one can get yell until one's face turns purple to the same result. It's irritating!

@Kitty: Oh! That sucks so bad! I'm sorry! *hugs*
Now, kick your dad in the rear and tell him to ask his students to please return it! Besides, why would someone do that?

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hahah thx for the hugs, I need them Happy, I almost forgot about this incident, now all the anger came rushing back. His art classes are not continuing.. it's a weekend class so he gets different people every time. Apparently that same class took all his scissors(expencive ones) too. He says his classes are mainly made up of lil old ladys who want to learn how to paint better?.. it's a strange world.
Im just very irked that some stranger has my work, what are they going to do with it? Claim it as their own? Throw it in the garbage?
That's the last time I lend my dad anything of value, that's for sure!

It would be different if it was something plastic purchaced at walmart, but art takes time and love.. you can never replace it. It's like a slap in the face when someone can be so careless with it. Like your time/effort/creativity mean nothing to them.
Him being an artist himself, you think he would understand this. But no.

Anyways, sorry for totally taking over your rant hahah just wanted you to know your not alone Happy

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I have a little sister who always has her hands on my things. My shampoo, my hair brush, my make-up my dvds, my fabric statsh- whatever. She doesn't care how many times she's been told or asked to not touch my things, it doesn't even remotely affect her. I get the annoyance factor. It's difficult trying to keep your things where you can find them when someone who is under the age of 10 is constantly moving them to odd places. I almost cried when I discovered she had "borrowed" over half of my Disney DVDs and now all I can find are the cases but the DVDs themselves seem to have disappeared.

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My kids sometimes get a hold of my stuff. If they do, they usually break or ruin something. A while back my daughter got a hold of a rosary I made that someone hired me to make and it took me a few hours if not two days to complete. I just about cried when I realized it was missing. Luckily the teachers at her school found it unharmed. Another time my daughter got into our bedroom and used a pencil ALL OVER one of my drawings. I managed to erase most of it and use colored pencil in spots that I couldn't quite erase. But there have been projects that she has completely ruined that I just had to give up on. We put a child gate up to our room but sometimes she climbs over it.

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I don't like my things touched either, not any thing of mine.LOL..
I am terrible about it.
There were 8 of us kids and nothing was private.So when i left home
I have had my own stuff, including craft stuff and I dont even like for others to put their stuff with my stuff.Terrible way to be but others dont seem to have any respect for stuff that is not theirs.
I dont loan any thing out any more either.I loaned my sister my dremel tool set, over 200 dollars of stuff and her husband sold it at a yard sale..grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

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im so sorry for all of you

sometimes ill be working on something and my mom will either throw it away or put it in a random place esle where and im like DONT TOUCH MY STUFF thats why when she comes into my room im say dont touch stuff!!!!

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I know what you're feeling.
Mum just spilt a bottle of water into all my scrapbookin stuff. years worth of hoarding ruined. Not to mention the hours I spent on writing out notes for the scrapbooks Im making for christmas, wasted. This wouldnt bother me so much if she didnt do it all the time.
Or dad, who, if something is in his way, he just kicks it away. You have no idea how many drawings hes ruined, sewing projects he's tangled up, things I've painted that he's bumped and now cant be fixed.
And theres my brother, who just doesnt care. He'll often borrow something, put it in his room, and Ill never see it again.

I hate people touching my stuff. Any of my stuff.

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I totally understand. It pisses me off too. After the years of people stealing/breaking my stuff ...i simply just dont let anyone touch or borrow anything anymore. Some people (including my family) think im a bitch about it, & non-caring, but i really dont trust anyone.
I dont even let friends borrow my stuff because many of them (past friends i REALLY trusted) have stolen my dvds, books, cds, cd player. And then never heard from them again. And family has broken many of my art stuff & cds. Its awful.

My brother recently tried to borrow my expensive 'Prismacolor Art color pencils' to finish a diagram for his art class. I said no, b/c he has regular cheap crayola ones he can use. He got pissed off at me, & drug my mom into it, & she yelled at me too. They both were pissed at me all day. But i really dont care, those things cost up to $100. And im not made of money to replace them.

'NO' is a powerful word ive found. lol XD
I hate when people think im a bitch for it tho. I respect other peoples things... but apparently no one else does.

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This reminds me sooo much of when I was growing up. I spent the little bit of pocket money and money I got for birthdays/Christmas on art materials. My dad sometimes bought me art stuff too as he liked engraving glass and oil painting.

My brother was the one that wrecked my stuff, so much so that I had a lockable desk draw and box for bigger stuff. He used to use my best drawing pencils for marking metal in the garage. If I did get them back they were covered in oil!

I'm just glad that my dad took my side and told my brother he would have to replace them. Me and dad came up with the solution of buying him cheap pencils with his name on the side....it got through to him....eventually.

I'm very precious about my fabric scissors now. Everyone in the house knows not to use them for paper or without my consent.

It's not wrong to want your own things to be kept in good condition. I wonder what people who mess up your art would do if you suddenly decided to wear their favourite coat or 'borrowed' a fave thing without asking.

I think it may be because someone who doesn't craft or isn't artistic isn't aware of the emotional input to making things.

It is frustrating when things aren't valued. I have developed a 'mummy look' that scares my lot. I use it when they get too close to messing up my stuff...Lol

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My dad was notorious for "tidying" when I was growing up. He would regularly go into our room and just start binning things. Letters, craft projects, drawings, homework, woodwork design sheets for school - anything. I remember I was making a birthday card for my friend and it had paper butterflies I was stitching down with embroidery thread. Knowing that my dad had a bad habit of just throwing things away - no matter what it was or how often we yelled at him for it - I hid it under my pillow. I came back from school and that had been binned too. It was like my dad just saw paper or card of any variety and just thought "junk, must chuck out" He actively searched for things and it was hugely invasive. I think it only stopped when I properly flipped at him for throwing out college letters when I was 18.

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When I was in community college, I'd be one of the very few people who'd come to class every day with all my art supplies. So many people asked if they could borrow my drawing pencils, my colored pencils, my charcoal and chalk.... I always said no unless they were someone that I knew would give it back to me at the end of class.

I've always hated it when people would take my things without asking. My first good set of colored pencils was a 72 piece Prisma set. One day, I saw my dad using them for a farm project and I was pretty miffed that he didn't ask me and that he was so heavy-handed while using them. I got really mad at him... but he's my dad so I can't stay mad for too long. It just really irked me that he couldn't have just gotten an old pencil from a cup somewhere around the house.

I remember way way back in first grade, I had a pencil box full of crayons, regular and jumbo, and some girl I didn't like much who couldn't talk right asked, "Can I luse your crans?" I said no because I didn't want her to "luse" them or break them. I was kindof a bitch when I was 6 or 7. Haha.

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My dad is horrible for this! He will touch everything and anything and either throw it out or put it somewhere and forget where it is. But if you touch anything of his (even an old car magazine) its the end of the world.

As a child he threw out my killer whale BATHTOY that came with a barbie because and I quote "There was some water marks and soap scum on it." I was a bathtoy! I was 6... There's supposed to be water marks on a completely rubber bathtoy... Water does the trick! GOD I know it was 14 years ago but still who throws out a child's toy that they got for their birthday a week after the fact?!

He also has the horrible habbit or giving things away... That are NOT his. For example, he's friends with our neighbour Steve and Steve has four very loud kids so my dad decides to "unload" some of our "old junk" on them. The problem is when you go looking for your roller skates and can't find them you can always count on seeing the neighbour kid passby wearing them. He has given away countless things and none of the items are his.

Ugh I could rant about my a$$ of a "father" for hours so I will stop myself now.

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