looking for a new family!

ok i have a huge family just on my mothers side and i swear they are all crazy!!!! this past march i risked my life to save my aunt Cheryl from a house fire, shes paranoid schizo she wont take her meds well she started a fire burning stuff outside in march to burn all of the people that's not really there hiding spots. anyways apparently losing one house and almost dying wasnt enough for her! she started a fire again today for the same damn reason and almost burned down her place and my uncle carls!!! after the fire dept got it out and that was all over she just thought it was funny as hell! wtf!? ok as if the crazy one isnt enough my uncle pauls house burned down in sept due to bad wiring it was a really old place, anyways he bought a camper and moved it on to my family's land. that wouldn't be so bad if he wasnt a drunk and by drunk i mean he gets so drunk every night that he pees on himself! well today he decided he was going deer hunting so he gets super drunk to the point where he can hardly walk and goes gets a gun and loads it and stumbles around the yard so my sister goes outside and take the gun from him like hes a bad child thats playing with a grown up toy or something. so on top of all that crap this weekend every day of the week the drunk expects me to take him to work because he simply doesn't want to stop drinking so he can friggin drive himself to work!!!! im trying to start college in JAN i was home schooled and got screwed over so i have to go get my GED ive been taking classes cus here in Arkansas you have to have 60 hours in GED classes before you can even take the damn test, so im expected to drop that and kiss my drunk uncles ass and take my crazy aunt where ever she might need to go all the damn time and when i say something about him getting help and her taking her meds other family members start unnecessary drama even though they're not helpling get anyone where they need to go. my mom had an aneurysm and mini stroke earlier this week over stress. im stressing out so bad right now i quit smoking in oct and ive started back and im so disappointed in myself! i keep trying to stay postive but its so damn hard right now!! im already on depression meds and anxiety and sleep aids. how much more can i possibly deal with before i break??? so anyone want to adopt me? lol

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14 replies since 15th November 2010 • Last reply 15th November 2010

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time with your family situation. I was lucky I guess. I have a crazy family, too, but the really bad ones have either all died off or we just don't have anything to do with them. My immediate family is pretty sane. I inherited the bipolar genes from the nutso side of my family, but luckily my parents and sister have helped me through the rough times. You sound like a strong girl and all of this will only make you stronger. Please don't let it break you. I officially adopt you as a sis. *hugs*

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I'll adopt you as a sister too!

Good luck with the crazy people in your life & a huge good luck with education!!!!! x

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Id love to have another daughter but youd probably think we were crazy too...LOL!

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my family isn't much better hun. I have an uncle with schizophrenia also. He takes his meds now but he's had a long history of doing crazy things like breaking into the vaults of banks and calling the police from the inside. Shooting at his own wife (he had a good reason for that, she had another man in their bed) and wearing woman's clothing. We don't see him often but we do see my mum's crazy sisters who are all drunks, drug addicts or seriously insane but not aware of it.

I suspect your situation sucks so much worse because you live so closely to your crazy family and seem to be expected to take care of them. You don't run a halfway house and shouldn't have those pressures on you. I'm not sure why your family has decided to let your aunt live on her own. I'd have her put up in the crazy house for her own safety as well as everyone else's. Someone like that is a danger to society. What's worse is that she hasn't been arrested for arsen despite having set fire to her own house twice. That's a pretty serious offence and she should be taken to court for it and probably because she's crazy she'll be sent to an institution where she can get treatement.


I'm really sorry you're having to go through this, it appears everyone from your family to your police officials are failing you. You deserve better.

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thanks guys! i just kinda needed to rant and get that off my chest its been sitting there for months now! my aunt has been in a institution last year before she went in she lived with my mom for a few month and mom finally was able to get her the help she needed, when mom did get Cheryl into the place my aunt Tina and Pam went nut-so on us saying that Cheryl's fine and doesn't need help. if shes ok then why the hell is she starting fires and calling the cops all the time because people only she can see and hear are bothering her!? anyways my aunt Tina moved her in with her after she got out and when she got tired of her she got her a camper and moved her back on our family's farm land where my family and my uncle Carl and his family live. they basically acted like shes a stray animal they don't really want! as for why they picked me to be the baby sitter and the run around its because due to depression and a miscarriage in august im not working right now, im trying to get my life together and get a part time job and go to school but that doesnt matter to them as long as they dont feel like they have to be the ones responsible for them. ive put my foot down as of today im not taking my uncle paul to work anymore i didnt this morning and i dont know how hes getting home cause im not doing it my aunt called about 40 mins ago wanting me to pick her up and take her to the store if i go out, shes does this whole thing where she doesnt want me to take her out unless i need to go because she doesnt want to put gas in! *sighs* ok im done ranting for now im not going to let them break me im just so damn sick of holding my tongue and not saying what needs to be said!

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Just do what you need to do- don't worry about the irresponsible adults around you who expect you to pick up the slack for things that they are responsible for.

Like it or not, they are the ones responsible for your aunt and uncle- not you. And you shouldn't feel pressured to doing anything for them.

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yea ive known that but its taken me till now to get to where i dont feel like i am responible the other adults guilt me into it or they use my grandma like they will have her call me and ask and its hard to say no. but she can ask me then why cant she ask them? so i didnt take my uncle to work today and my mom is going to pick him up but when he gets here im telling him he has to find another way to work and back.

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Sounds like you are one of the only responsible adults in your family. How old are you???

I don't think you would find my family to be so much better, but reading about your family ALMOST makes mine sound somewhat sane. xD

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i just turned 21 in august. lol ive only said something about a few family memebers! i have 9 uncles and 4 aunts and thats just on my moms side! lmao

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i just turned 21 in august. lol ive only said something about a few family memebers! i have 9 uncles and 4 aunts and thats just on my moms side! lmao

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Oi! Seriously missy. Easier said than done. But you need some time for yourself. For just one day let everything fly over your head and just do what you need to do and have me time. Your still so young and your playing the adult role. Well the responsible one anyway. I doubt that you would want to but it should be you being all idiotic and stuff your young! your allowed to be silly,,, not them you should be taking care of yourself.

Put yourself in a Jiffy bag and post yourself here. We will take care of yah ^_^ lol

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I have a few family members I don't talk to anymore because they are poisonous. My mom bitches all the time that she doesn't want to die knowing her children are fighting. I told her it will be more than just fighting if she forces me to be in the same room with certain people again. My sister is psychotic, she enjoys causing people as much pain as possible. When my son's bio dad left I was broken up pretty bad and she decided to tell me that he left because I was crazy and that no one would ever love me. All that went through my mind is all the crap I've ever had to take from her and that I felt like I had nothing to lose so I swung at her. Of course that got me arrested and I haven't spoke to her since.

I'd suggest finding a friend to stay with or telling your mom how bad this is stressing you out and that it might be messing with your future(schooling). If you don't you might snap like I did. <.<

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ive thought about moving out again but right now i really dont have anywhere to go. i snapped last year over bullshit stress and spent a few days in a crisis unit for a bad nervous break down. im on depression meds and anxiety and sleep aids. im 21 and im on a frigging list of meds because of my family.

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Find a friend (or sane family member who understands...??) you can stay with.

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