Selling my story
So out of interest, I emailed this company with my breast augmentation story, and they'd be interested in writing and selling it to a magazine.
God knows I need the money, and I would love to get more information about the condition I had out there. But I distrust journalists (being one) and even though I suppose I could change my name for it and wouldn't necessarily have to provide pictures, what if someone knew it was me? I'm not generally bothered about people knowing but it's quite an in-depth thing to talk about.
The company offers the opportunity to talk to them, find out how much you'd get for it and then decide whether you want to go ahead or not. Maybe I should do that? I'm not sure whether to talk to my mum about it - I don't think she'd be happy, and chances are she isn't gonna read the type of magazine it would end up in.
I think your fee might be cut if you didn't submit any pictures. Why don't you speak to your mother about it and explain how it would help get more information out there about the condition? If you were published without her knowledge and were anxious about her finding out, it could be very stressful! You'd be surprised what people find out... Even if she doesn't read this magazine, a daughter of a friend of hers (or some similar obscure connection!) might.
Honestly, I think it depends on how old you are and whether or not you still live with your mother (whether or not you can talk to her about it, that is). If you are under 18 and/or still live with her, then yes, you need to worry about her. If you are over 18 and not living with her, then really, it would be best to just have an adult conversation about the pros and cons of the situation--if that is possible.
I say "still living with" because, for an example, even after I was 18 and was still living with my parents, they "wouldn't allow" me to do certain things "while under (their) roof". Additionally, I totally get if you can't talk to your mom about some things--I honestly told my mom when I moved to Israel that Shlomi and I have separate bedrooms.. I just don't think she could handle the truth--not straight from me.
Anyway, short story long, hopefully you have the kind of relationship with your mom where you can be honest with each other about "adult" and "semi-adult" topics, like breasts and so on.
About the article: It's not like prostitution or anything--in this instance even my mom would be thrilled about getting the story in the magazine, and she is a prude. You might be surprised what your mom has to say about it.
Needless to say, I suggest having that chat with them. You need the money, and again, it's not prostitution. I think (in the USA) it's even against the law for them to "out" you if you ask that they use a pseudonym.
Final thought: Since the article is about breast augmentation, do you think they would require showing your face in the photos? ;) Something to think about if adding photos gets you additional money.
Hope I helped!!
I don't think anyone can be sure of the right decision apart from you.
I hope you make the right one for you and nobody else. But I will say just think about the future implications of selling your story.
Would they use your real name? Would the story also be posted online so people could find it if they 'googled' you.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do! X
Well I talked to them and they said they could change my name but it would still have to have my face in it. Andy (my boyfriend) really isn't comfortable with it so I'm not doing it for him, and I kind of understand.
I'm 19 and live away from home, and me and my mum talk about this stuff - heck, my parents paid for the operation. But I don't think she'd be happy about it.
I've decided to leave it for now. It's a shame though, could have done with a £1000 and I'd love to get some more awareness about the problem out there, cause I really struggled and I know a lot of other people have. People have found my blog on here and emailed me about it and stuff.
Maybe one day. They're not even healed up properly yet so I couldn't provide a good "after" picture.
Hm, I can see not doing it because of not having a good "after" photo..... but if your boyfriend is really the only reason you aren't doing it....
I'm not going to tell you how to run your life, but you know what people say when women give up opportunities for their boyfriends. Will you resent him for this in the end? You COULD really use the money.
Good luck, whichever you decide. <3
But I mean, I could do it any point in my life. I'll never not be a person who's had a boob job. So if we did break up in a year, I could do it then. And I can understand that while I'm at uni isn't the best idea.
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