I'm really sick and yet I still got off my butt today to clean because I've been slacking on it since I got sick. My kids gave me something with bad headaches, fever, sore throat, runny/stuffy nose, the works. They're fine but I'm still dying a slow painful death from it.
So I'm cleaning and my husband sits there watching the football game NOT helping in the slightest. Even when I ask him just to do something small like take the pile of toys I gathered into the kids' rooms. Ended up doing that myself.
But I asked him to do the laundry for me. I sorted it and everything. It NEEDS to be done, but I'm so sick and it already hurts too much to keep doing chores for today. He sat on his butt, game going, didn't even acknowledge he heard me.
Took a nap and woke up 3 hours later and THE LAUNDRY STILL IS SITTING THERE AND SO IS MY HUSBAND!!! He does this all the time and it irritates me! I hate procrastinators! And would it kill him to do it between commercials?!?!?!?
Oh sweetie, I feel your pain. My husband would gladly live in a huge mess if I would let him. (The apartment he lived in when I met him was soooo messy!) I've had very little time to clean lately, and he keeps saying that he'll help me... but never does. Or he'll do something like putting away a few things in the wrong place, and then going back to the couch. I bet he thinks that if he puts stuff away wrong, I'll stop asking him to do it.
But what really, really, really gets me is the cat litter box. Now, the cat is most definitely my husband's cat. He hates me! All I ask is that my husband take a few minutes each day to scoop it out, because its right next to my washer and dryer, and I absolutely hate smelling cat messes all the time. But does he do it? NO. I asked him AGAIN this morning because it was smelly, and he says "I'll get around to it." and sits in front of a video game.
SRSLY. i feel completely scattered when the house is messy - how can people not feel the need to clean up after themselves? ugh. >_<
Oh, crap. I can't help here at all....
Not to rub it in, but I've got the most amazing husband in the world. I do have to remind him to take out the trash, as that's his only "job". But since I don't nag him all the time he always helps me when he sees I need it.
If I'm home all week and just being lazy, he'll say something like, I know you're tired and need a break. I don't care if the dishes are dirty.
If he sees me struggling with Ben and being TIRED and TRYING to clean, he'll wake up early one morning and do the dishes for me. Sometimes he even scrubs the toilet.
I don't mean to invade on your rant...lol I just love him so much. I'm so blessed. I wish every woman had a man like my husband.
Im going through the EXACT same thing right now!!! I have all the same symptoms you do, and now my 3 year old has it with a fever. She got up crying 4 times lastnight...you think that hubby would have some compassion and get his a** out of bed to comfort her... im also 30 weeks pregnant and not sleeping well with this huge belly. It is really fustrating!! I feel your pain!
I dont mind being super wife any other time, but it would be nice to get a little help now and then. It's almost like now that were married, he dosent have to try any more.
Haha, yeah same with my husband, he just works, plays games and other things on the computer and sleeps all day. The only thing I am keen on him to do is take the trash to the dumpster since I am not good with stairs (since 2 years ago i fell down and seriously injured myself, two surgeries worth of injuries) but that dont even get done half the time unless the land lord is yelling at us.
Its sad that I get more help from my bestie and my gamer guy friends when they are over and heck they don't even live with me.
Long time ago he made it very stern to me that since he "works" that he is except from doing house duties since he brings in the money, which I call B.S. Cause when I did work I came home and took care of the house and our kids. So why is it harder for the male species to multitask, who knows?
Do they not know a happy house equals a happy wife...ah well!
Oh Kitty, I hope your pregnancy finishes comfortably!
I all BS on that too Sugarlishes. My husband lost his job(due to his own stupidity) months ago and before he got his new job he was super lazy! He didn't do a lick of work around the house or with the kids! Normally I only ever ask him to help with getting the laundry down the stairs(we live in an apartment building and the laundry room is downstairs!). If he can get it down there I'm perfectly happy to do the rest. But when he was out of work I expected a little more help around the house instead of watching him sit on his computer all day long!
He realizes I'm really mad at him now but his excuse is "I got it done didn't I?" Yeah, well it took me several times of asking and just about going into tears after he ignored me so much because of not one, not two, BUT THREE FOOTBALL GAMES! I swear it was on all day long!!!
Jesus Christ ladies if my husband did that to me he knows what he'd damn well get! For a start Abby you are not there for his personal convenience, you are not paid help and he does have to answer you when you talk to him because that is simply manners. If he can't do that then you unplug the tv and it doesn't go back on until he has damn well learned.
Sug, as the main wage earner in the house (we both work but I'm the one with the higher wage packet and the longer hours to match) we work together to get it done and my Alex certainly doesn't sit on his behind playing games until the work is done. Unplug him. Don't cook for him. Do something because he is as full of it as a pig with colitis.
I'm currently spitting feathers that your husbands are like this. it's lazy, rude and disrespectful on every level imaginable.
GOD I'M SO CROSS FOR YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I did something like that before with an ex. He wasn't working and I was so I thought he'd get chores done around the house. Nope, he sat on his computer all day long flirting with other women. So one day I took the keyboard to work without him realizing it. He threw a temper tantrum of epic proportions and kept calling me AT WORK.
I don't even dare try that with my husband because the results are something I kind of fear. But my ex was abusive my husband isn't. I just have that ingrained mistrust in there still.
Your husband is taking the mick Abby. Sit him down and sort him out sweetie otherwise he's just going to keep doing that and it's not fair on you.
I AGREE WITH BRYRONY@!!!! OMG, I'm really pissed for you guys, too. SERIOUSLY--both of you live there, so BOTH of you do the chores. End of story.
Man alive (lol), if Shlomi sits on his rear end after I ask him to help me with something, he KNOWS I'm coming after him. Also, if he is doing a chore and I don't feel like it, he knows how to guilt me. ;)
It's a two-way street--saying wedding vows doesn't make you a SLAVE by any means!
...I have mace if anyone wants to borrow it. xD
>off to strangle a husband or two, with all this misplaced anger<
Ace Rachie. Just Ace.
Wow, that's two posts on two different sites today that have made me thankful I live on my own. I don't have the gene that makes it possible to pick up after other people.
I have lived with lazy men before and I couldn't stand it. If I knew a man was messy, I wouldn't want to move in with him. For crying out loud you're supposed to be their partner not a surrogate mother.
And I think "I don't care if the dishes are dirty" is a code for "I can wait til you've done them rather than do it myself" lol
Thx Abby, I hope so too
Bryony, I've tried talking to him time and time again about this kind of thing. It's the procrastination and not acknowledging me that bothers me the most about him. Sometimes I say something to him and he acts like he didn't hear it(just like his f-ing mother, who I hate with a passion because she does that). He's lucky I haven't left yet. But where would I go? My mom already has my little brother living with her in her tiny place, so that's a no go. And being a stay at home mom I have no money what so ever. With the economy too I haven't been able to find work. No one wants to hire someone who hasn't worked in five years and the last places of employment are out of business so they can't verify anything.
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