Judgemental people.

It really annoys me , sometimes when im on the bus with my little girl . From a lot of people i get the oddest looks. I cant quite work out wether its because im a young mum or... because im a mum and i look the way that i do. It annoys me so much because surely people in London would have gotten used to the fact that their are actually girls far much younger than me with kids :| Man, i thought i was young but there are like 13 year olds with kids for crying out loud and also have people not heard of the word individuality , i look a bit different to your average mum, so what. Why should i change the colour of my hair,take out my piercings and hide my tattoos because i have a baby? What ever happend to just being a good mum as being good enough. I love her to pieces she is my world, so why do people see that as any different as anyone else??

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6 replies since 21st May 2010 • Last reply 21st May 2010

most people are assholes, that's why. Be a good mom and that's all that matter, she sees who you are and you will teacher her as she grows to not be one of "those" people. She loves you for who you are and not what you look like. ROCK ON SISTER!! Be yourself and do it with STYLE!!! XOXOX

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That annoys me too when people stare. My daughter is 19 and has a 4 month old, and she gets odd looks too because a lot of people thinks she's like 12; we've had some people actually have the audacity to say something when they ask who's baby I'm holding and tell them he's my daughter's son. I have to say then, oh she's 19 and graduated from high school, like this is any of their business. My daughter and I have also responded by saying "boo" like" what are you looking at?" when some one stares no matter why they are looking and then they turn their head and move on about their business or we get a roll of the eyes, but it's known to them that we don't appreciate it. Not sure if it's a rude response and don't really care because it's even more rude to gawk.
So it's what Krafty Kokatie said, most people are assholes and there are ways of making them aware of it...hence my response to rude staring above. ^_^

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ignore it hon, you are awesome. They just wish they can be as cool as you are. Rock your style, you look great. Hey loads of those girls surpress their induvidualty, you embrace it, your daugter will grow up to be one strong little woman. Be prod and ignore my horrid spelling mistakes its 9am on a sat morn and I was up late shooting a concert for a client.

xoxo michelle

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what everyone else said!

ive had it with judgemental people. seriously--idk what religion you do or dont follow, but my new mantra is "he who is without sin may cast the first stone," along with "take the log out of your own eye before pointing out the speck in mine." ;)

in the past week, weve REALLY seen the racism and judgemental side of people come out, because they crowned a new miss usa and, GASP! she immigrated from lebanon when she was a baby.

big whoop, right? o.o

anyway, ive found that im at peace more readily when i just remind myself that people like this are just hypocrites.

dont worry, doll! we all like you. Happy

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Awh haha you guys are dead sweet . yeah i learn to knock back the comments people make or the stares but there are people who are so blunt and actually say " your a baby yourself, and yet you have a baby" my reaction is always different lol some like yeah and and sometimes im like wth :| im 18 in the UK im considerd an adult stop staring and yabbering on about whats best :| i pray that my daughter learns it aint right to judge people.

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Loads of good advice there, and you know we are all behind you all the way....
When I was 15, my best friend at school had a baby. While other mothers were shocked, and in some cases turned against her, my own mother set to work knitting her cot blankets and baby clothes, and welcomed the baby with open arms. Although my Mum is no longer here (She died last year) she taught me not to be judgemental of anyone, to have empathy and kindness, and most of all the importance of love. Unfortunately, you come up against so many ignorant people who don't share these values
My friend got married to her boyfriend when she was sixteen, they went on to have five children, and she became a grandmother at 35. I would say she's one of the best Mums ever andall five children have grown into happy, confident teenagers. They didn't have much in the material sense growing up, but had a happy, loving home and that's what's important.

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