making friends. :)

simple as the title suggests really

i have a couple of close friends at school, but thats it.

in the past, ive been friends with more people, but they just seem to find new friends really easily and forget about their old ones.

im nearly at the end of secondary school and cant wait to meet more people at college, but want a headstart and to get used to making friends again before then

apparrently as it gets closer to our gcse exams, the whole year "gels" or whatever and everyone starts being more friendly, but i just cant see that happening with our year group

preferrably i want to start talking to more people in real life, but just dont know where to start!

everyone used to get on when we were younger but over the years you get reminded of reasons why you dont like people and dont want to become friends, and i mostly sit with friends in my classes, so i dont know who to start with

also what to say?

any advice on any of the above would be great Happy Happy

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8 replies since 3rd March 2010 • Last reply 3rd March 2010

Hey Happy
I'm currently in my last year of college (year 13) and i've experienced the same as you.
I think the best way to make friends would be to generally be talkative and confident in yourself.
Unfortunatly no one was around to tell me this at the begining of year 12 and i went into myself Happy
Now i've learnt that aslong as you show confidence in talking to new people, they will want to talk to you too!
Don't be put off by rude people though, you will ALWAYS get them wherever you go.
Also did you want to start talking to your old friends? Or new ones?
xx

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i totally understand. i think everyone's been through that. it can be a bit difficult trying to make friends in a new environment, or whatever it may be. but i suggest that you just be yourself. and try to make conversation with others. maybe complement them on their shirt? talk about a new movie.. etc.. im sure you'll make friends in no time. =)

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Hi!
I'm 22 and I'm in the third year of University.
I think that in your life you can meet a lot of people but true friends will be really few.
About going to college you'll see that making friends will be a lot more easy because everyone is new and don't now each other!
you'll be sitting next to someone, just introduce yourself and talk about your new lectures, professors ect...
I agree with Tiggs and Francis: be confident and be yourself
Cheer up!

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When I was in Year 11 of Secondary School, I didn't find that the whole year "gelled" because of GCSE's its just the way people are. People tend to gel a bit more if you go to Sixth Form, I found that, but Susanna is right about Uni. I found that people don't gel at Uni either, it helps to make new friends if you live on campus as you will have flat mates - this is where I had trouble, I commuted into Uni - and then you will meet people on your course, just start introducing yourself to people. When you go for nights out you will meet people. Also if you have to do some group coursework you meet people that way. I met up again with a guy that I did group coursework with last year, I hadn't really seen him around, and he introduced me to a friend of his, so even in my third and final year at Uni I'm meeting new people. But its fundementally the same everywhere, I've only got three close Uni friends and one of them I was already friends with a school, so I'd made 2 NEW friends from Uni and I fell out with one of them about a month ago. It's just life honey and the way people can be sometimes. Its just about being lucky enough to meet like minded people.

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confidence, and being myself. Happy
its great to hear from other people.. to be honest i thought most people had lots of friends (not necessarily all close friends), and i was a bit of a loner but i feel better now. Happy
thankyou. Happy

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and act happy
people want to be friends with people that make them laugh and are happy, not with grumpy kids
being more happy and talking to other kids besides my friends worked well for me^^

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happiness! XD yep i am generally very happy, i am currently trying talking to other people that i wouldnt usually at the mo

will let you know how it goes Happy

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Hey Shifty_Material15, that's ok. No it's not you, it's everyone else lol. I had high hopes for making compleatly new friends at Uni because people that describe Uni say that you meet new and interesting people blah blah blah. I found this not to be the case, some people's experiences are different. Just make sure thayou be confident in you and happy, I think that was where I went wrong, I wasn't so confident in me when I started Uni but over the three years I have become more confident and I speak up for myself a lot more, I think that's what my friend didn't like because I didn't just sit back and take crap.

I'm hoping that when I leave Uni in about 3 months, that I will make a new lot of friends and stuff. I hope so. I only have one close friend from school that I still keep in contact with, and it's not the one that goes to Uni with me. I still see Uni people but I'm not as close to the group as I once was, and I'm glad to be honest because in my opinion they are horrible people (I don't know why I became friends with them) and I can't wait to break away from them!!

I know I'm sounding really negative but my Uni experience has not been brilliant...

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