Boys.

So I just met this really sweet guy and we've been texting for a while now.
But Im starting to really like him.
The problem is hes going out with my friend.
Hes already told me he likes me, and hes planing to break up with her.
She really likes him, but moves on fast

Then theres another problem.
My three best guy friends all like me too, and well, i dont want to date anyone and hurt them.

So,
any advicee. ?

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7 replies since 1st January 2010 • Last reply 1st January 2010

The guy that's going out with your friend, is off bounds! No texting, chatting etc without your friend being present. It's a part of "Girl Code", boyfriends and brothers are off the menu!! I know it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but as a 35yo mother of a teenage boy, I do have some experience. And you are completely right about not wanting to date your guy friends, as soon as you do, things become different. I wish you all the best..it's hard being a teenager...

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yeah...the boy that's dating your friend = absolutely not. I've had friends date the guy I like (not that they KNEW I liked him...) and it was not fun.

And it's really hard having guys like you that you don't like...

My advice in this situation? Just don't date anyone. Whoever you date, somebody's feelings are gonna get hurt. You don't want to hurt your friend or any of your guy friends, so I'd just stay out of it and wait for it all to blow over.

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yeah, if he would do that to your friend, he will do it to you. He is a player, shure he is being nice to you and all, but its cheating, and thats not nice guy material.

and like everyone is saying, think about your relationships with your friends, by going out with this guy could destroy your friendships. Its has happened to friends of mine, two friends breaks up, another friend decides to date one. Its like a war zone, people take sides, it gets missy

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This guy sounds way off to me. Forget what you might think about him and look at his actions. This is a guy who is after with his girlfriend's friend. PLAYER ALERT!!! No good can come of this.

And about your 3 guy friends. Simple. You don't like them back then don't date them. If they stop being your friend just for that than they're just not the friends you need. If they get hurt then so what? It sure as hell wouldn't have felt better if you dated them and didn't really have feelings for them.

Oh, and just a quick thought from experience. If you have that, "Oh, we might grow to like each other more while we're dating" stop. That happens through friendship and when you actually get a crush on them. Which you do not.

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" If you have that, "Oh, we might grow to like each other more while we're dating" stop "...I've done that. It doesn't work.

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Boys you can always find,but friends... Its waaay more harder!my best friend made the same thing with me,and after a month they broke up... But we will newer be friends again...

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As a general rule: never date a guy who is essentially waiting for you to agree to go out with him before he breaks up with his girlfriend. If he didn't want to be with her, he'd already have broken up with her, and then asked you in the decent way if you'd like to be with him. People who line up their next partner usually ALWAYS do that; my friend Lauren found that out when she went out with a guy who made her promise to go out with him if he broke up with his previous girlfriend. Then when he broke up with Lauren, he was immediately with another girl - what a surprise. Then Lauren gets a text saying he might break up with Kayleigh if she'll give him another chance. It's just people that don't want to be alone.

To be honest, if this is a really good friend of yours, you should probably tell her what he's been doing, because she doesn't deserve it.

And like everyone else has said with the other boys, if they're good friends they won't hate you for not dating them, but going near any of them is going to end up hurting all of them.

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