Through an Email

hes afraid of commitment, besides the fact that you two might or might not be right for each other. i know its hard now, but try to be glad that you found out that hes a jerk before you got married. you didnt do anything wrong here--all you did was love him! he is heartless if he cant appreciate that you love him. whatever you do, DONT let him make you think that this was your "fault," ok?

ive been through similar events.... message me if you need to talk, ok?

you WILL get through this, and you will have a better life than you can imagine right now. i promise.

I can't believe that you would have stayed in a relationship with someone who was a shit so I'm guessing this would have been a really tough thing to do and he's probably doing it by email because its sometimes a really good way to get across what you need to say. You can sometimes be more honest because you can't see the other person. I'm afraid to say I have done something similar, although it was more of a muddled up friend/boyfriend that I ended things with and I can honestly say it was a last resort. He always managed to win me over or make me feel so guilty that we ended up making up although never moving forward past the original problem. I'm not making excuses for Iri but there honestly is no good way of ending things. Sometimes if in your heart you know its not going to work out its actually the better man who ends it than the one who just buries his head and carries on. My sister's first marriage ended for those kind of reasons. Although looking back we saw the warning signs you never see them at the time. My heart really does go out to you but my advice would probably be to try and talk to the people who knew you both and can give you a balanced view. Otherwise you could end up feeling like you wasted your life loving someone who was a shit and feeling totally crap about yourself. You are not stupid or blind - if he had truely been a horrible person you'd have dumped him long ago. x

If you people only knew the whole story like some of us do, the ones she doesn't like and not saying anything. It is taking so much in me to keep my mouth shut, but I'm not gonna say what we all know. Ginger, you really should take responsibility for your part of this little break up.