MEN!

he hasn't really dealt with the break up honestly, and he is trying to pad his future. if he guilts you into feeling sorry for him and gives you the "it is my fault" complex, he gets to have his cake and eat it too while you miss on an opportunity for happiness.

dont fall for it. let him know you have greived for the loss of the relationship and have come to a point where you know it is time to go on. you feel for him that he still has not come to grips with the break up, but that is not your responsibilty, and you need to go on with life, because life is too short to live in the past.

tara, i tell my husband we need to be somewhere at least 45 minutes before we have to be there, if i am lucky we get there 10 minutes early, or on time. i prefer being slightly early, i hate being late. he does the same thing too, we'll go the fast way, then drives like an idiot, cuses, and thinks everyone else on the road is the jerk. i just bite my tongue.

Men.. can't live with them.. can't live without them.

Jean I totally sympathize. I grew up in a household with a father and brother like that and now I date the cookie cutter of the same problem
I've got used to tell all the men in my life if I have to be there at 3.. I tell them we've got to be there at 230.. if we're early.. oh sorry got the time wrong.


EDIT: Stop the Press my man is being a wanker.. ok he spends like 6-10 hours a day on the computer.. sometimes more.. I'm not kidding.. sure he has a website and stuff, but on the weekends I like to veg on here for a few hours.. I'm just getting over being sick and have been cleaning (yes I said I do it, and I still intend to but I had the chance to pounce on the computer so I am) and he's just had a little tantrum about me just "sitting" on the net doing nothing.

Knobhead.

what, tell him cut out and keep is very theraputic.

but yeah, my guy is glued to his computer

Yay Tim's drinking has gone down to every other day, or even a little less =) It's still far too much but he's young, his liver will grow back. His sleeping's still not right but it's getting there and hopefully we'll go out this evening which will be lovely

thats great news. Chad has also cut down on his drinking and smoking

Ok. Im sorry, i know this is to much information, please feel free not to read. anyone not comfortable with more mature parts of realshinships, don't read.
I am sorry again.


DAMN IT!!! My boyfriends best friend has been living with us for a while. I like the guy and all, he's really nice. Buy because he's here, my boyfriend is withdrawing from us. and sex. making me feel very unloved and very un....lustable? weird word, i know sorry. And like, i like his friend, BUT I HAVE NEEDS!!! and i really need his attention from time to time. And the only "alone" tim we have right now is about 10 mintues between the time i get home, and the time his friend gets home. And my boyfriend still does nothing. I'm going insane.

Ontop of it all, my boyfriendsbest friend "did" one of my friend when she stayed her over night, and now he's going to break up with her. for no reason.

oh! Thats going to be weird, about your friend. I hate situations like that. And yeah, we have needs. Like does his friend have anywhere to go? so you two can be alone. maybe talk to him and see if he can go out for a bit...and talk to your boyfriend. Communication is key.

Me and my boyfriend have a open communication, just say what is on your mind. Its alot better to get it out in the open. If he keeps withdrawing, you won't have a relationship.

ask your bf friend if he has noticed a change. Maybe he is going through something and doesn't want to bother you? Anyway please talk to him and your boyfriend. get things off your chest.

PS Jas, if you ever need to talk about it, you can email me ok. I understand what you are going though, been there done that.

Tim doesn't like having sex at night when Jem's in the next room, 'cause their walls are paper thin and Jem always bangs on the wall. It causes a real problem for us too, because quite often that's the only time we get alone.

Tim asked me if I was cheating on him last night. Well, no, he didn't ask, he just insinuated and tried to trick me into admitting something I haven't done, which REALLY pissed me off. I was crying for ages which he took as a yes, because apparently if I accused him of cheating he'd laugh and because I didn't do the exact same thing as him I'm obviously guilty. He realised how stupid he was being though and made it up to me. Although he completely ignored the fact that I really wanted to talk about something

that is so not cool. Why do guys assume that?

Well he did because I was texting my friend and not showing him my texts because that's just what I do.

ok, thats a bit over the top. Its your personal property and he should have more trust in you.

I love y bf, but if he ever asked me if I am cheating on him I would go ape shit on his ass

Well yeah, I got really angry with him and wouldn't talk to him for a while. He said that all he wanted was for me to hug him and tell him he was being stupid, but I didn't want to pander to him like that, I wanted to tell him to fuck off. Luckily we have a really mature relationship so instead of storming out like I would have done before, we talked about it and resolved it and came out a lot stronger the next day

thats great, communication is a huge part of a relationship