Anybody else hate spending Christmas whit his own family?
For me, Christmas is wonderful. My own family (husband and two sons) often spend Christmas on holiday. We are currently in Arizona, last year it was California, and three years before that it was Hawaii. Living in Canada, we give ourselves the gift of sunshine, warmth, and family memories at Christmas. Our extended family knows this, and whether or not they are happy about it, it is what works for us. We have wonderful times during these Christmas'. Merry Christmas.
My parents don't allow me to celebrate Christmas so I normally run away to my boyfriend's family for the day
Well, this year sucked again. lol IT was awful, i dont even want to talk about it. I hate my family (which makes me very sad).
I really miss having that little kid feeling and enjoying christmas like its magical. lol
I feel terrible when my grandparents are over for christmas and i dont spend time with them. but i hate my father with a passion and everyone gets on my nerves too much.
I hate Christmas with my family. My aunt is a psychologist. When she was early in her education she was actually a great person to talk to. She knew how to "REALLY" talk. Now, she's almost too educated. She scrutinizes everything people say. She also has started drinking wine, which has in my eyes made her a hypocrite. She works with children who have been removed from their families because of drug and/or alcohol use. She never used to drink. Now that's all I see her do...drink and become critical of everyone else. It's so hypocritical of her to judge others while she drinks "just wine". All of my aunts and uncles are in their early to mid 60's now..but all they talk about is college. They graduated A LONG TIME AGO but it's all they talk about. I didn't finish college..so I'm the loser. I don't want a "keeping up with the Jones'" lifestyle. I did that before, it's not me. I find it interesting that such educated people never learned the simple courtesy of kindness and love on Christmas, especially.
I am glad my family is far away, back home in Arizona. I love them, but they have some serious issues. I've never had a nice, calm family gathering with them. There always has to be yelling and blaming and crying and slamming doors, and that kind of stuff drives me crazy. If there's one thing my family taught me, it's that yelling doesn't really accomplish much besides upsetting people and making them defensive, so the real issue never gets solved.
This year was the first year in about 20 years that I had a truly wonderful Christmas. I spent the holiday with my boyfriends' family, and they are such nice, sweet people. They really love each other and enjoy one anothers' company. They have been so accepting of me and I'm more grateful than they can imagine that they let me be a part of such a nice family holiday.
I'm struggling with this deeply...I'm 36 and married with two now pre-teens. I love Christmas but for the last 3 years it's becoming more and more difficult to enjoy. My sister is mildly handicap with a bad temper and is very spoiled. She gets upset every year cause my oldest b-day falls around Christmas. And My mom doesn't want to let go of old traditions. I feel guilted into thinking I need to make everyone happy. Especially my mom, I just can't do it anymore. I would love to have Christmas with just my parents and hold the drama, but that'll never happen. I no longer want to spend Christmas with my sister at all. We are not close, I would like to be but she is very explosive and the stress from it all is exhausting. I've given this a long run...15 years... Maybe it's time to start our own Christmas and my parents will have to except the change..am I being greedy what do you think?
Your not being greedy at all Anny P and if I had a choice I would spend Christmas anywhere but with my family. I used to really enjoy Christmas until my mom passed away 2 years ago now I absolutely hate it with a passion. My two sisters are completely insane and my father is the most irrating, maddening, draining human being I have ever been in the company of. Nobody mentions my mother and we all have to keep smiling pretending we're happy we are clearly not. My father is so maddening because for the last 22 months he has thought of nobody but himself he treats myself and my two sisters like slaves we constantly have to run around after him to ensure he is happy. He is completely oblivious to the fact that we lost someone too - our mother. Small bit of comfort that there is other people out there that hate Christmas and their family as much as I do.....................
I'm 13, so I have to spend Christmas with my family, I use to like it, but now my dad is remarried, so I also have to go to my step-mother's family's Christmas stuff. I still love going to my mom's side of the family, where my aunts and cousins are, but not any other.
I used to dislike Christmas with my family because from 12-14 it just seemed boring and pointless. I enjoyed the last few Christmases I spent with my own family, but for the past two years I have been away from my mom, dad, and brothers... I've had the past two Christmases with my fiance and his mom and it just makes me miss my own family.
But, being "home" with my family would mean I have to deal with my little brother's girlfriend, too... and I can't stand her.
So... I guess everything has its own tradeoffs.
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