I've had the exact same problem as you. And I'm young so I might not give the best advise. But in the end, you'll outlast him. I know that sounds bad but friends are forever if you know what I mean. He's just there for a while and soon your friend will probably realize what a jerk he is.
I would say you need to get away from him. And if you want to spend time with your friend you should say you just want girl time and no boys. Don't try to make peace with him because he's insecure and thinks everyone is a threat to his relationship. Just try to cut him out of your life there is no dealing with people like this.
If he says stuff to you, ignore it. He's looking for a reaction and I think he gets one because you said you have a temper? He know he can piss you off easily so if you just ignore everything he says he'll lose out on the fun of it. In fact if I were you, I wouldn't even say anything to him besides the absolute necessity.
I know it's hard since it sounds like he's in your friend circle.
I read this and it's like identical to my life last year. Its like the guy my friend use to date went on to date your friend.
I can tell you what not to do if that helps.
How did my friend end up breaking up with him? She met someone else. You guys will go off to college or are at college? and she'll meet someone new. I hope this helped.
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Dealing With My Friend's Boyfriend.
Started about 2 years ago · Last post almost 2 years ago ·
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Hair dye help!!!!
Started about 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
Have you dyed your hair before?
Cus my hair is dark brown too and I've got it down to if I want a certain hair color I have to use hair dye about two shades lighter than the one I want. I just use the cheap stuff at the drug store. But I'm not the most caring about my hair. If you want to use drug store brands I can tell you the ones that didn't work for me.
But if you want the right color and it not to fade away fast, I'd go to a beauty shop where they have the more expensive hair dye and use that.
That's a awesome hair color and hair cut. Now I want my hair to be that colorr =D
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What is wrong with today's youth!?
Started about 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
Not all young people are like this.
I was raised by a father who let me have my freedom, well to a certain extent.And yes I am not perfect. I'm quite disorganized but I'm not a brat. I volunteer and get good grades and do my chores. I pay for my friends lunches when they can't afford food. If my dad needs help with what he does around the house, I'll help him. I'm not saying I'm a great person but I am not self-centered or irresponsible. Yes my room is a mess and some times I'm a jerk or insecure. But I think in most age groups you will find people who are mean or self centered and people who aren't.
I'm just slightly offended that based on your experience with your cousin that you draw the conclusion that most young people are like this. Or maybe you've met more young people like her. But I don't think it's fair to make such a generalization.I just think you're committing a fallacy in making that generalization.
I have friends that work so they can go to college or so they can have food for their family. Is that selfish or irresponsible?
Yes I know jerks my age that are self-centered but doesn't everyone?
But I don't think it's okay for your cousin to be acting that way. And I empathize and can see why you'd you'd be upset and blame it on the parenting or young people. I understand that. And I do agree that parents need to be parents first and not try to be liked by their child. I don't really know how you could deal with problem except by talking to the parent about their child's behavior. But giving a parent advise on how to raise their child could easily offend them too. So it's a tough situation.
I think the reason that parenting styles have really changed is because of the idea of humanism which is the idea that people should focus on a person's own potential and that people are fundamentally good. This idea still really influences how people treat their children.
Also the issue with physically punishing a child or just physical punishment in general, is that the only way punishment is actually effective in changing behavior is if it is swift and severe. The punishment has to happen right after the bad behavior occurred and it has to be extreme. Also I would argue that physical punishment if use correctly, only corrects short term behavior problems and not long term.
wow that was really long and rambly, I hope you understood.
I wish you good luck on your situation.
-Sarah
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Knit Fabrics
Started about 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
Where do you guys buy your knit fabrics?
I can never seem to find any stores where they have a good selection of them.
Where do you get them? Online? Stores?
And do you usually get a good price for it?
Joanns has a terrible selection, at least my Joanns has a terrible selection
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vegetarian chit chat
Started over 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
I like to make minestrone soup and add tons of pasta to it so it's more filling. My non-vegetarian friends love it.
And I make curry but I just buy curry paste. I don't make it from scratch.
I also like to make cheese filled pasta.
And stir frys are yummy =D
I've never really liked fake meat. There these fake chicken patties I like but other than that I've never really been a fan. I like tofu but only really it's not pretending to be red meat, if that makes sense?
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i am no one
Started about 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
I empathize; It's hard to change your life when everything seems to be getting you down. And changing your life takes time. I agree with everyone; you should go make a doctor's appointment and get some help. Depression can be treated through therapy or drugs. I know it doesn't seem like it but life does get better. Other people have gone through what you're going through, so don't feel alone. I think it's a good first step that you're talking about your feelings.
I wish you the best of luck.
And if you need to talk, you can message me too because I've gone through depression and it's not an issue that should be ignored or lightly brushed over.
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What projects are you all working on at moment?
Started over 2 years ago · Last post almost 2 years ago ·
two scarves
And I'm trying to find the time to make a skirt from this really pretty floral pattern. I also have some poka dot fabric I'm going to make a sweater out of. = D
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knitting is not crochet
Started over 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
I'm the opposite; I can knitted but I can't crochet. I've tried and I just can't get it to look right.
If you want to learn knitting stitches, youtube is super helpful!
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Introductions Thread - New to the site? Come say hello!
Started over 2 years ago · Last post 2 days ago ·
Hii everyone!=D
I'm Sarah.
I try to sew and what not.
I also read and knit.
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Introductions Thread - New to the site? Come say hello!
Started over 2 years ago · Last post 2 days ago ·
Hii everyone!=D
I'm Sarah.
I try to sew and what not.
I also read and knit.
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Favorite book?
Started over 4 years ago · Last post about 1 year ago ·
Lovely Bones
Anything by Kurt Vonnegut or David Sedaris.
Atlas Shrugged.
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Weird things that you're self conscious about?
Started over 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
I'm super self-conscious about the general shape of my body. I'm completely flat chested but I have a really big butt(seriously big). So I never wear tight shirts because I think it makes people notice how skinny my top half is in comparison to my bottom half.
I dislike my nature hair color too.
But no one's perfect so I try not to think about it.
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dancing woes
Started over 2 years ago · Last post over 2 years ago ·
I think if you don't enjoy it then don't do it.
I'm like Pinkweeds. I use to want to be a fashion designer and took classes for it, but then I started hating sewing and couldn't do it anymore. I just didn't like doing it anymore. So I finally decided I didn't want to be a fashion designer and it was a relief. And I finally started sewing again. Which made me realize, for me, sewing is a hobby not a career choice.
Maybe you don't have to give up dance but don't feel so pressured to become a dancer. Try some new things, you don't have to decided what you wanna do with your life right now. And school musicals are really fun and you grow really close to your cast members.
Or you could get a group of people together and experiment with dance together. You're probably not the only person that wants to try different styles. I have a friend who gets together with people and teaches them dance moves he made up or saw. It's really casual and looks fun.
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What are you reading?
Started almost 6 years ago · Last post over 1 year ago ·
I'm reading Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. =D
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To Be Vegetarian or Not?
Started over 2 years ago · Last post about 2 years ago ·
Here's my take on it, people are vegetarians because of moral issues or health issues (or both). So I think the most important thing is your health. Some people are healthier as vegetarians and some aren't. If you fall into the first category then keep being a vegetarian and if you fall into the second then if I were you I'd start eating meat again. But that's just what I would do.
The moral issue is important and if you feel strongly about these morals than keep being a vegetarian unless it's harming your health. I just think the most important thing is your health.I think someone said something about your emotions guiding you about eating meat, I think that will help you to decide if it's morally okay to eat meat.
In my opinion I think it's okay to eat meat I just don't approve of the meat industry and plus it's greener not to eat meat. I think the way we raise animals with the intention of killing them is not very honorable. I think it's okay if you go out and hunt your own meat because that's just survival of the fittest. But most of the animals in the meat industry have poor living conditions. Especially chicken and fish (if grown in a farm).
In the end don't change your life style because of what other say or do. Decide for yourself what you want and it'll be the right decision.
Sorry if this made no sense or I'm just rambling, I'm super tired.
Oh I'm new so hi everyone.
-sarah