by Jessi J.
First off, that tattoo artist was an idiot. I know a few that will simply NOT tattoo a name on somebody under any circumstance until it is there son/daughter or a remembrance tattoo. What a stupid artist, to be quiet honest.
@Abbyka: I understand so much, you have no idea. Before I got together with my boy now, I dated a horrible horrible boy. If I could describe him, it would be the kind of guy your mother prays that you'll never be with. Anywho, It took me 8 months to notice everything. All the abuse (both ways) that I took, plus he cheated on me with COUNTLESS girls. I'd even come over and they'd be in his bed. But me thinking that I loved him and he loved me, he would never do that. WRONG.
It took me so long to be able to trust any boy. But I realized that not everyone is like that. And I was luckily enough to find somebody who understands what I went through.
My best friend (who is a boy) has a girlfriend who doesn't like me. He'll come visit and she'll get all mad and shit. (we live a 2 hour ferry ride away) but I feel bad. We are so much closer then they are together, but she always thinks that i'm goign to steal him away!
I think jealousy is silly. I mean, yes of course I get jealous every now and then but still. I've been with my boy almost two years, and neither of us is jealous.
I personally believe that if somebody gets jealousy that easily that they don't really trust their partner. I trust him with everything, and even if he's hanging out with a girl who i consider prettier then me, I'm still fine with it. Because I trust him.
That chick needs to be kicked to the curb. That must jealousy is really unhealthy in a relationship.
I believe that the problem isn't really in elementary school. They're still just being kids. Even when I was younger, girls still wore those things. They're in grade 3, I do not believe at all that they are being slutty. They are innocent girls, and they'll still be innocent for a while.
I do think it falls in with media however. Like the shows we watch. Degrassi, Gossip Girl, Jersey Shore etc. Where it makes it look cool to do stupid crap.
@ Abbie S. : I'm hit and miss with my opinion of home schooling. Yes, it can spare children from some of the harsh realities of high school, but It can also shelter them. I know a few home schooled kids, I feel like that they don't really understand being apart of such of a society. (I'm not saying that all home schooled kids btw)
I've seen a few kids do really ... weird things because they don't really get it. (btw, this is home schooled and then entering high school)
I don't know what I would rather do, being in high school of home schooled. I know I wouldn't have the friends that I have now, I don't know. I would feel sheltered from the real world I guess.
But I'm under the assumption of kids who I know who've been home schooled.
@Lolly.Bot: My god. Seriously? I'm actually speechless. I also feel like some parents don't really enjoy being parents. I actually know a mother how says she doesn't like being a mom. (She's older, like 40 something)
I don't know if people just don't even know what they get themselves into, or they think it'll be a cake walk and then get hit with the hammer of reality.
I want children, not any time soon of course. And I'll teach them (hopefully) well, and I'll try to point out how freakin' stupid kids seem to be. Having sex may seem like it isn't much (now-a-days) but you have to be willing to take on the consequences if something happens.
I just hope that my son/daughter will grow to be smart. The way my generation acts doesn't make me not want to have children, but to have them and teach them right. To possibly help save THEIR generation.
@Luna: To be honest, I'm a fan of 16 and Pregnant. It does show their struggles with motherhood. I highly doubt that anything will change. The way socities are progressing, I doubt that we will change for the better.
@ Erika B. Are you sure that it's HIS phone and not his parents that he was playing with? Because a four year old with a phone seems like a great stretch.
@Lindsey N. Yay! Grad 2011! I'm in the same boat as you. 6 year olds having phones? Thats bananas. I received my phone last year ( at the age of 16 ) under the condition that I pay for it. And, nobody in my family was allowed to have a job until 16. ( reason why is that my parents believe that you should worry about being a kid, because as soon as you start working, you'll work the rest of your life.) Only then was I allowed to get one, but it's my responsibility to pay my bills, etc.
@Creativemind, I don't know. The way I see it as when you a child at a young age and decide to keep it (mind you, i know a couple of girls who made the decision for adoption) you need to make the decisions for the good of your child. Even if you have a good support base from your family, you are a mother/father. I feel like the young parents that I do know that do shit are unresponsible. It's true that they aren't mature enough to probably handle the situation, but at a point they have to grow up to be.
@lolEffects: It's crazy that kids are getting "sexually active / aware" at such a young age. However, I do have to say that make up does play a very small part, but if you wear it it doesn't make you like them. Everything in moderation. If you cake your face on, then yes, you'll probably turn into that (obsessing with your look etc) I actually don't wear much make up at all. Winged liner, macara, and I shadow in my brows occassionally. It doesn't make me like them at all. If you choose not to be like them, then you won't. I personally don't think that girls in elementary school should be wearing make up anyway, but don't think that if you wear it, you'll turn prissy.
@ Melvin: I work at Toys R Us, and I SHIT YOU NOT, i heard a little 8 year old say "SUCK MY DICK". Me and my supervisor were shocked. Get this his mother just LAUGHED.
I'm no where near to being a parent, nor am I ready. But I know how I will raise my children, and for a parent to think that that is funny and amusing is ridiculous.
Kids should be focusing on being kids. Enjoying life, not worrying about being sexy or is they are "hot."
@lolEffects: Stay strong, hun. I feel sorry for the girl you're taking about, with no self respect really. I feel like she needs that attention to feel satisfactory. I'm glad that you notice this and aren't changing to fit in. I really hope that she notices what she does before anything horrible happens to her.
Another thing (which I hope that I'm not treading on any mummies and daddies feet) but some of the blame is parents. I know so many "popular" girls in my school who's moms don't care if they drink and do drugs. They try to be their friend instead of being a mother figure. It's horrible, OR they party TOGETHER.
@ Lolly.bot and Mi.ezekatze: One of the girls that I know that is pregnant, still smokes. Now, I can understand like doing it slowly because quitting can stress you out and consequently stress the baby out, but this is what girls dont understand.
As soon as you get pregnant, you are no longer a teenager. You are an ADULT. You have to make decisions for the health and good of your child. You cannot party and act the way you have to. There is a person inside (or out) you that depends on you for their SURVIVAL.
@Kitty: I won't lie, when I was younger I went through my rowdy stage. For about, 5 months. What I saw, and experienced changed me. Seeing so many people end up in the hospital from alcohol poisioning etc. I didn't exactly fall in with the right crowd. When people started treating me like dirt I realized that I'm better then that. I don't know if it's because I experienced it that I am the way I am, But it was definately an eye opener.
My mom also had a big part in it, she gave me this amazing speech about what I can grow to be etc, what I can accomplish when I put my mind to it. After that, everything just really changed.
A large part, is that I can respect for MYSELF and other people. I will not "whore" myself out to feel needed by a boy. If there is one thing to stress a lot with your daughters (not saying that you aren't already btw ^_^ ) is respect. Self respect goes so far, because so many girls I know don't have that. And ambitions! The way I am is because I want to achieve great things!
And thank you very much, you made my day!! ^_^
I agree Mi. Ezekatze, Melvin and Violetta!
The media basically portrays that being trashy is the new "in" thing. and you have to be bone thin to be considered beautiful.
A reason why I love the 50's so much, is that they wore full skirts and dresses and people were considered drop dead gorgeous. And Marilyn Munroe who was a size 12 (Correct me if I'm wrong, i think it's either that or 14 ..) and she was an ICON. And she had curves!
Another thing that really truly bugs me.
I personally believe that if you as a woman, cannot afford birth control (mine is $6 a month!) then you should not be having sex. Yes, condoms work but I kid you not, I know two girls at the moment who are already pregnant, one that has a 6 month old and a girl who miscarried.
We have sex ed, but nobody really understands the consequences, and everyone thinks with the "Oh, it'll never happen to me."
Oddbreed, that is AWESOME that your family has a relationship like that. I value you mine soo much, they will definately thank you for it!
I will be graduating from high school this year, and over my years of my secondary education, I have learned some very interesting things.
My rant is about how other kids my age, make me look bad. I am a good kid, if you walk past me in the morning, I'll say good morning, etc. I'm not overly rowdy.
However, the kids who disrespect older people and have no disregard for anybody else just piss me off!!
"If you've got it, flaunted it."
I have lost count of times, where I can visibly see a girls butt cheeks because her shorts, skirt or dress is too short. I don't understand why people have to come to school half dressed!
And this just happens to be a pet peeve, but when you smoke (not hating, i have a few friends that do) and you tuck your smoke behind your ear to look cool, YOU LOOK DUMB.
There is my rant.
My question for you is, do you ever feel like other people just ruin it for you?
I feel your pain about not being trained. When i started my job, they told me that I have a period of three months (which i want to call a probational period, but i think thats wrong.) and during that time they could fire me without any reason.
That is possibly what happened, luckily for me, I didn't get fired but also wasn't trained to the full potential. I'm consistently being asked to do things that I have no idea what to do, and when I ask for help my supervisor gets very irriated.