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I love the magazine bag you have on your blog!
My shiny, new blog is at http://aesthetic-ethics.blogspot.com/
And a little bit about myself: I'm trying create an entirely ethical wardrobe, without necessarily looking like all my clothes come from Traidcraft, and I like to blog about it. I like to sew and knit and I am eternally trying - and failing - to learn to crochet. I come from Liverpool but I live in Oxford where I can get my hands on a cream tea any time I like.
I have got to stop spending so much time browsing the blogosphere! Too many interesting things! But if any of you do have time to browse, please feel free to pop round to my blog, Trixie's Ethical Aesthetic:
It's all about my pledge to stop buying clothes and things from unethical shops that use sweatshops etc. when I can very well make them myself/ buy them second-hand etc. I'm trying to do this without looking too much in the stereotypical "fairtrade" style, which is nice, just not really me. My latest post is a review of Lush's new forray into make-up:
Grr, the minority of teenagers and kids that behave like that are so infuriating! I used to live close to one girl who was about 14 who called me 'Fat ass' (when I was 14 I wouldn't have had anything like the guts to say that to someone older than me - besides the fact I was only a UK14/US10) and made fun of my sister for being spotty and ugly (which she really isn't) so much that she started bunking off school. When we went to talk to her mum about it her answer was "well, she has a point". If kids are being raised to treat other people like that then you really can't take what they say personally - they're probably so insecure they'll criticise people whether or not there's anything to criticise. I just feel bad for the majority of kids and teenagers who are actually decent people.
And Minnie - I've just joined your blog having seen your tutorials for a pillowcase skirt and a tablecloth skirt and trust me, they really don't look like they've been made out a pillowcase or a tablecloth. They're brilliant!
Wow, there's some really great blogs here! My hopes of a constructive afternoon have gone but on the plus side, the list of blogs I'm following has grown quite a bit.
Minnie and Amber - I really love your backgrounds, how do you get them? My own, very plain, blog is looking a little drab now.
I've just started my blog so it's very new and a bit small. I recently decided to stop buying clothes from unethical high street shops when I could be shopping at second-hand and vintage shops, or even better, making them myself! My blog is generally based on my experiences of trying to find a style that's ethical AND has personality. It's at http://aesthetic-ethics.blogspot.com
Hurray! I'm very excited about my shiny new blog, Trixie's Ethical Aesthetic (http://aesthetic-ethics.blogspot.com/).
I've given up shopping at unethical high street shops but I don't really like a lot of the traditional 'ethical' clothes shops, so this blog is about my attempts to create a wardrobe that's both ethical and actually stylish, mostly by buying second-hand and vintage and (hopefully) by making my own clothes.
Does anyone else have a blog they'd like to share?
I think it's great that you're being confident enough to make new friends. I had quite a hard time the last year and a half or so and I found it really easy to just hide in my boyfriend and spend all my time with him, then when things got better I realised I'd lost all my friends! I'm trying to make new friends now so I know how nerve-wracking it can be but it really is worth it and I'm sure you'll meet some wonderful people.
I think what you're going through is perfectly normal, and the friends you make individually will likely be much better friends than those you have as a 'circle'. Be yourself and keep the courage up!
I might be a bit late on this one but why not ask him for help on a project that relates to something you both have in common? You both like chemistry so (an a very cliched example) you could ask him for help with something you're doing that's chemistry related, or with studying for an exam. This way, you complement him, give him a reason to think you like him and also arrange for the two of you to spend more time together, putting off your "deadline" for making a move.
I have used this trick before - I asked my boyfriend for help planning a group holiday and we got together on that holiday, a year and a half ago. We're now living together.
But most of all be yourself and I'm sure he won't be able to resist!
Thanks for the advice Sheila. Keeping a diary sounds like a good idea because at the moment I don't seem to able to understand what triggers it when I feel my worst. Thanks everyone for the support and you're right, it does help to have a good rant sometimes!
UK TV is definitely better! The US version of the Office just didn't seem to capture the point of the UK one. Plus Fawlty Towers, Monty Python, Blackadder, Spaced, Green Wing, Peep Show - all the best and most original sitcoms - have been British. Having said that, the US does seem to do better slapstick and physical comedy - that wonderful episode of Frasier where Niles is getting ready for his Valentine's date would never have been made in the UK and was genius.
Becstar - I love Dara O'Briain and especially Russell Howard! It's nice to have a British comedian who talks about happy things!
Thanks for the help! I have a few different pairs of sandals, none of which fit me properly. I have a pair of flip flops which I wore once then have never worn again because they keep falling off and some birckenstock sandals, the type that have a single strap that goes over your foot. If I can lift the lining and shorten the strap that would be great for those ones. I also have a pair of beautiful high heeled sandals from irregular choice (present from my boyfriend) but I look like a little girl dressing up in her mother's shoes because there's a huge gap between my foot and the ankle strap! I was thinking of maybe cutting a bit out of the strap then sewing it back together a bit shorter, but I'm scared to ruin my beautiful shoes!
(If anyone's interested, these are the shoes:)
Grrr! I have been on a waiting list to get CBT for over a year now and they've just told me they have one spot for an initial assessment (not the actual therapy) and I have to work on that day. I'm getting so fed up of just trying to cope until I can get the help I need and I'm starting to think I'll never get it. I've been on anti-depressants for a while and luckily they work really well, but I'm sick of having to increase my dosage every time I go through a 'bad phase'. I really want to get to the root of the problem, so I can help myself out of it when things get bad rather than having to always be going back to the doctor.
I'm sorry to rant. Sometimes you just have to get angry for a second.
Reason for your screen name: Quite geekily, it's my character's name in an RPG
Home country: UK
Home town: Oxford/Liverpool
color: all kinds of green
animal: maybe a cat, or maybe a
song: hmmm...maybe Waterloo Wunset by the Kinks, She's Not There by the Zombies, Itchycoo Park by the Small Faces, or maybe You do Something to Me by Paul Weller, or maybe I Only Have Eyes for You by Ella Fitzgerald or I'm your boogie man by KC and the Sunshine Band or maybe any number of other songs.
place to hang out in your area: My boyfriend's house, where I now live, or any of the many pubs that Oxford is famous for.
What's cool about your hometown/locale? The fact that over 20% of people who live here are students and so there's always lots of things going on during the term time, but in the holidays it's either very quiet or full of tourists, and always beautiful. And the fact that you can really be yourself and people will very rarely judge you. And it's got many, many lovely people hidden away in corners.
What do you do to pamper/spoil/indulge yourself? I eat chocolate and sew or knit and watch Star Wars or Indiana Jones with my boyfriend.
Ooh, toe pads sound like a great idea! I bought some shoes from ebay which turned out a bit too big - I've been stuffing them with tissue paper but it doesn't work particularly well. Thanks for posting about this!
P.S. And ideas how to make a slip on sandal fit better? I have quite narrow feet so it's really difficult to find a pair that fits.
Lakesha, I'm sorry to hear how people aren't taking you seriously. My sister and I have both had severe depression for years and she also has mild paranoid scizophrenia and it wasn't taken seriously for either of us for a long time. One person told my sister she couldn't be depressed because she was lethargic and "depressed people don't sleep much" (never mind the fact that she had insomnia as well as being lethargic!) and I was told by my high school counsellor (as a way to 'comfort' me) that I didn't have any problems, I just "didn't want to cope".
My sister's also had a lot of problems with people thinking her psychosis is just her attention-seeking or exaggerating or making things up and it makes me so angry that people can treat others this way, at the times when they most need help, just because they don't understand (and often would rather not understand). Luckily, she's now got a new health worker who's completely changed her treatment and it's working wonders. Please don't give up because it can get better and it really will be worth all the waiting and trying when it does.
It's so comforting and refreshing to see people talking about this openly and supportively. Thank you, it's made me feel so much better to see how many other people have been through what I'm going through and how supportive everyone is towards each other.
Wow, great ideas I'm definitely going to make one too! Maybe you could put in a book that makes you laugh, or something small that reminds you of someone you love, or your favourite toy from when you were a child or some KC and the Sunshine Band?
Would you be able to adapt boots you already have? If you have durable enough scissors you could always cut a slit down the side of a pair of boots and fill it with a nice fabric or some knitting or something. It could work in a sort of shabby-chic way.
What a lovely idea for a thread!
My day today has been great so far because I stayed up most of last night writing an essay for a horribly early morning tutorial and now it's finished I've been able to get back into bed and do sleepy things like watching TV with Bernard, my newly-made pirate-bear.
Well done on losing all that weight! I really think the best thing a person can do to lose weight is tackle their emotions about food. I used to be a size 18 but since being treated for depression I've lost 3 stone and gone down to a size 10/12 without trying to diet or deny myself anything. What was even better though is that I stopped judging myself for being bigger so good news all round!
Oh, and my day was also great because I got to have a chocolate muffin and a HUUUUGE cup of tea.