Going away and learning to live on your own is probably the absolute best thing you can do. If things are meant to be, the two of you will find a way to make it work, and in the meantime you'll get a better handle on who you are and what you're capable of on your own, which can only help to make both you stronger people and bring more skills to the table as individuals- if you plan on having kids than each of you needs to be completely capable on your own... I'm not that far off from the age you are now and I can tell you that in the 3yrs since I graduated from high school I have changed so much as a person, learned so much, and become so much more confident in my own abilities- things that only happened because I went off to school, lived away from home for a while, and got a job. I know what it's like to be planning your future and to be in love like that, and I would never call you crazy for it. However, the one thing my parents got so very right is that in order to be at your best in a relationship you have to know how to be yourself and live on your own. Take a little more time. Go to school. Get an apartment, get a job. The future isn't going anywhere, and if he's who your meant to be with you've got the rest of your lives together. So, try and do what I try and do- smile when you think about that fact, enjoy what you're doing now, get all the skills, training and experiences you can at the moment, and get your plans in place so that when you're able to tie the knot however many years down the road that may be, nothing'll stand in your way. :)
Best luck, S.
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Are We Crazy?
Started over 2 years ago · Last post over 2 years ago ·
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Want to Home School, HELP!
Started over 2 years ago · Last post over 2 years ago ·
Considering their ages, I can't see home schooling having a negative impact on them academically. Based on what I remember from school when I was in those grades, I'd say the biggest things are keeping them interested in learning, reading, asking questions, exploring, and staying active. Your best first step is probably to get a copy of the required curriculum for their respective grades (and perhaps one ahead and behind just to be thorough). That way you'll know what, theoretically, they would be learning if they were still in public school. Socially, as long as they still are interacting with other children through play dates, park outings, or extra curriculars like dance, sports, choir, crafts, etc... they should be fine. There's a lot I think we learn simply by being forced to interact with a group of people, (many useful, if sometimes painful lessons that equip us for the rest of our lives). That said, if the situation is even half as bad as you just described it- home schooling, at least until they can go somewhere else, definitely sounds like a necessity.
Wish I could offer a bit more than this in the way of suggestions/information, but being in a different country and not having been home schooled myself, there isn't really anything. I do have one friend who was home school through middle school before returning to public school for high school, and she's doing very well academically, if a little awkwardly socially at times. That said, I believe both of those traits to be general aspects of her personality, and I'm not exactly how her home schooling has played into how they're expressed.
Good luck. :)
(ps. I'm really happy that you're asking these things, and even considering it- I've seen too many kids where the parents couldn't seemt to care less about what goes on at school... Your kids are very lucky to have you. :D )
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He wants me to pay him so i can do my job???
Started almost 3 years ago · Last post almost 3 years ago ·
Glad you didn't get scammed ('cause yeah, I agree that's what that sounds like).
A calendar for CO+K would be an awesome idea though! As for themes, I think some cool suggestions have been made, although as a note here in Canada July would be Canada Day (the 1st), and our Thanksgiving is actually in October before Halloween. Too, there's loads of other awesome holidays in December other than Christmas (Kwanza, Hanukah, etc...) Would be interesting to do a theme poll as members are from all around the globe. We could probably manage to end up with a variety of holidays for each month lol Also, not everyone gets snow...not that that means people mightn't do snow related crafts there, m'just saying (January could also be New Years- although not everybodys' new year starts then). Plushies for May definitely gets my vote though! *squees at the cuteness* Either way, I think the idea has great potential and I can't wait to see what happens. :D You guys rock.
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rude people issue
Started over 3 years ago · Last post over 3 years ago ·
Certainly- and at least ask if they want to use someone else's pictures.
(I just couldn't believe how nasty people were getting about the person who'd copied on the project that i saw.)
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rude people issue
Started over 3 years ago · Last post over 3 years ago ·
*hugs* That does have to suck, Creativemind. Did their project get removed?
(PS - Um, just to clarify in case it came off wrong b/c i know that happens with me sometimes, I wasn't saying that people who get their projects 'copied' like that shouldn't get upset, just that I didn't think it was very nice for all these other people to gang up on the 'copier'...)
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Shop Name
Started over 3 years ago · Last post over 3 years ago ·
Something memorable and describes what you do/sell. Those are two of the pieces of advice I always see on the subject. Something easy to spell is always good too- it won't matter how cool or catchy the name is if they can't type it into their browser or search engine. The name of the shop you have know does all of that, so I have no doubt you'll come up with something cool again. I rather like Princess Roni's suggestion, considering how eclectic what you're planning to sell is. Do you have a certain style in mind? If you do you could include something that describes the style as opposed to your items.
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rude people issue
Started over 3 years ago · Last post over 3 years ago ·
Glad to hear that she's on top of this kind of thing- not that I'd expect anything less. (I've been quite impressed with this whole site).
(Using it as a dating site? Seriously? *shakes head* wish I could say people like that surprised me still...)
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rude people issue
Started over 3 years ago · Last post over 3 years ago ·
People are posting that kind of stuff?! That's horrid. I mean, I can kind of see some people maybe getting bent out of shape a bit if they think someone is trying to pass off someone else's project as their own, (doesn't mean that they should get rude, just that I can get it if they do). Anything other than that i just don't get- why bother taking the time to post? Suggest grey if you think it'd look better, but don't bash the pink rabbit (to use the earlier example). If it get's out of hand perhaps something can be done about the posters... I'm not one for banning, but perhaps they could have their accounts temporarily suspended if they seem to have a history of un-necessarily derogatory posts... Unfortunately, those kinds of posters seem to be a hazard of any site that goes mainstream- after a certain critical mass the not so serious start to show up in bigger numbers. At this point I haven't had any first hand experience with those kinds of posts on this site (other than seeing some people gang up and chew out a couple people that weren't posting actual how-tos and just pictures from other sites or something), so I can't get any more specific. I've seen your projects (along with many of the others on this site) and I've never come across anything I didn't think was at least a little bit neat. (And you guys are just plain awesome. :) ) If there are starting to be a lot of these kinds of posts it definitely needs greater attention before it can become an even greater issue...
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WHY does school need to be so expensive??
Started over 3 years ago · Last post over 3 years ago ·
If you've got the time/space I'd suggest trying to grow sprouts. Really quite cheap (as far as I'm aware) and it'll help with your vitamin/mineral/protein intake (they're quite nutritious). You just have to make sure that the seeds you buy are meant for sprouting and haven't been heated or anything. If you've got a health food store nearby where you live it'd be worth checking out (there's also a number of websites and online suppliers), and a vitamin/mineral supplement is definitely something to get. If you have the space/time/inclination I'd suggest seeing what else you could grow yourself- even just a bottle or two of sprouts along with a tomato plant and some salad greens would go a ways to helping round out your diet a bit more. Perhaps you'd be able to replace the lettuce with sprouts (if the pricing is ok) at any rate- they'd be far more nutritious, and by varying the kind of seeds/beans you got you'd vary not only the nutrients but also the taste.
At any rate, best luck, and I hope this was at least moderately useful to you.
(I'm looking at moving out sometime within the next year myself, and with suddenly having all living expenses as well as paying off my student loan... Not sure how I'm going to manage that, really. School is not cheap here in Canada either- and I wasn't even at one of the more expensive universities...)