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    Anybody else hate spending Christmas whit his own family?

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    I dont spend Christmas with my family.This will be the fourth time this year.I know it may sound crazy or what,but i really hate being home on Christmas.I go to my husbands(whe are not legaly married yet) parents and we spend the holidays there.I hated Christmas for so many years,untill I saw what a great holiday it can be If you are with the right people.Before that I spent my Christmas alone in my room,depressed and most of the time crying.But now its my favorite holiday and I LOVE Christmas time!I love decorating the house with my mother-in-law,baking with her and opening presents with that family. The reason I hated Christmas is because my parents think,just because Im grown up now we dont need to celebrate Christmas anymore.There are no decorations,no Christmas tree,no Christmas dinner,no presents,no Christmas feeling and the most important thing: no love! So I was just curious is there anyone else ho spends Christmas with someone else then their family?

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    I don't like spending Christmas with my family. I don't get on with my dad, I don't really have anything to say to the rest of them. My aunt criticises me the whole time and makes me cook my own food cause she refuses to cook for a vegetarian. I just hate it, I'd love if I could spend Christmas with someone else, but I'm 18 so not allowed yet. Having said that, my brother's 26 and isn't allowed.

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    Hope youll find someone who will make you love Christmas soon! Same thing with my dad!Most of the time he comes home drunk,keeps drinking at home and argues with everybody around him.It gets uglyer on Christmas.

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    This will probably be the first year i wont spend christmas at home. Last year it was horrible and i cried myself to sleep , this year however ill be spending it with my fiance's familyHappy i love it at his place. The whole house is decorated like hardcore christmasy and such and his grandma is being super nice to usHappy at my house our tree isnt even up and i honeslty cant be around my spoiled brat little sister :x i might stop by with the family for a bit but eeh.... only if my grandma's there.

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    I am buddist, I really don't celebrate christmas, but I havn't spent a christmas with my family for three years, I was living 12 hours away, too far to drive in the winter

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    I'm just gonna get drunk. Oh god, my mum reminded me of something - my uncle, whose house we're going to for Christmas this year, thinks he's a painter. And they have paintings all round the house and they make their own Christmas card that said "The Thompson Gallery" on. And they're awful. They look like something a 9 year old would paint. And we have to go on about how great they are =( it's depressing.

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    i have spent most of my adult christmas times alone. I used to live across the country from family and no one wanted to come see me because "there isn't anything to do there" (um hello I was there and that should have been enough)

    anyway we live only a days drive away from family now and i am still going to spend it without family. no one wanted to come down. I am a little sad we haven't been invited to anyone's house, nothing going on around town, so actually i think it will be a boring week.

    I absolutely LOVE my brother in law and his family so if i could i'd much rather spend the holiday with them. my own siblings are a little selfish and it's hard to relate to them. soooooooo

    here's to everyone celebrating in their own way and making themselves happy!

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    Kit maybe if you get drunk enough the paintings will get nicer! Happy

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    Yeah maybe they'll turn into mini Van Goghs or something

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    i love your hair in yur pic, violetta!

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    Thanks!I colored it black two days ago...

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    I haven't spent christmas with my family since I left home at 18. Now I live as far away from them as I could get w/out leaving the U.K. lol. I really don't get on with them.

    I read somewhere that friends are the family that you pick yourself and I'd rather be with friends that I like than family I don't=)

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    Yeah,I think its important to spend Christmas with people you really enjoy being with and if those people arent your parents/family,than so what?I know that if I want to have a peaceful Christmas time the price is going away from my family.And I am so much happier than four years ago.

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    I'm a moslem and I don't celebrate Christmast but we also have a 'big day' like that. when all families and relations gather in our grand's home, do chit chat, eat, present (just for the kids) and so.

    Just don't know why at that day I always think like "i hope tomorrow would come faster" bcause I'd never feel comfort w/ my relations somehow~

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    I spend Christmas with my family because I get on with most of them, but I can understand not wanting to spend a special holiday with them if you don't enjoy their company. So long as you spend your special holiday with the people you care about is all that matters, and they don't nessisarily have to be family members.

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    Može moje mišljenje na hrvatskom?

    nego.. kao prvo objasni svojim roditeljima da gubiš vezu s njima.

    Zato jer si odrasla i osamostalila si se, oni smatraju da ti više nije potrebno ono što si imala kao dijete..djed mraz, ukrasi...bla..bla..

    Oni su ti roditelji, vole te, i time bi te trebali poslušati.

    Pokušaj sljedeće godine (ili čak i ove, ako stigneš) s nekim iznenađenjem.

    Ispeci im kolače i pokaži da želiš slaviti Božić s njima, uz puno ljubavi, jer ipak život je kratak i treba ga iskorisitit maksimalno.

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    Hvala ti,ali sam ja već sve to isprobala pre dve godine i prošle godine isto.Ništa od toga.Kolače naravno pečem i ove godine,kao i uvek pa pola nosim kod supruga,pola ostavljam kući. Happy Nismo mi sa roditeljima u lošoj vezi,slažemo se inače,ali kad je reč o Božiću... pihh... A više ni neću da riskiram ostati kući pa celo vreme gledati kad će izbiti svađa,lepše mi je kod suprugovih roditelja gde je atmosfera topla i ugodna bez ikakve svađe.nadam se da me razumeš,valjda nisam previše srpskih reči ubacila.Lepo od tebe da si pisala i slažem se : Život je prekratak i treba je iskoristiti.

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    ma sve kul. ;)

    Razumijem te..

    Možda tvoji jednostavno ne vole Božić. :/

    Ali ako te veseli odlazak kod supruga, odi i provedi se lijepo. (:

    ~nadam se da ćete riješiti probleme~

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    The fighting and arguing has started,its time for me to escape from the battlefield!

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    Yeah I always thought I was wierd not wanting to spend christmas with my family because in society CHristmas is suppose to be time with your family like in all the adverts on TV but I realised no one has a perfect family like that.

    My partner doesn't like his parents either so we're gonna spend it with his sister and her kids really looking forward to it!

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    I always found it hard cuz I hated Christmas and you can't escape it!IT's everywhere shops, tv , radio , internet just got me down thinking about other people having a great time and me wishing I had different parents.

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    I love spending christmas with my family! my brother can be annoying though. But to be fair hes annoying everyday of the year.

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    I used to think that Christmas with my family was annoying when I was a teenager, but then I realized after my grandma and aunt died that you only get one family for yourself. If you don't spend time with them, you could be missing out on something important.

    This will be my first year that I'll be away from home for Christmas--the first year that I don't get to see my mom, dad, and brothers smiling in person. Of course we're all mailing gifts back and forth this year, but it isn't the same as enjoying the holidays with the family that loves you, even if it's only deep-down. I'll be spending this Christmas with my fiance's mom, which it will be nice to celebrate Christmas with her, but it isn't going to be the same as seeing my own family.

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    well said Monika Happy

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    I'm the complete Black Sheep of my entire Extended family ...so i usually dont enjoy family gatherings... and they have a lot of them.

    I still live with my parents (cuz i cant afford to live on my own), and spend most of my time making crafts in my room alone, just to escape talking to them. :/ sad, but true.

    So most of my life i've DREADED christmas. I'm kinda 'alternative' with tattoos/piercings and vegetarian (complete opposite of my strict christian/hunting dads side family), so no one wants to really in-depth talk to me. And they never know what to get me. I also HATE being fake in front of people; and i have to dress and act different with my dads side. I've cried (and more) a lot on christmas, just like the other people above.

    But i've gotten used to it over the years. And its bearable now. I found that making and giving people (i dont like) gifts, makes me feel better. lol oddly enough.

    I cant wait for the year i have a partner and i dont have to fool with that crap anymore ...or at least i can drag him with me. lol You girls are lucky. I'm actually looking forward to this christmas tho. Gifts!

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    I hate spending christmas with my family if my sister is arround. Because 90% of the time she is angry, upset, bossy and I'm mostly the target then. Like a few years back she said it would be better if I killed myself. And the last time during dinner in a reastaurant she constantly said: 'This is a murder knife. I'm going to kill those kids'


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    That doesn't sound fun I have a bossy controlling sister too but I think it's just for my parents cuz she's not so bad when there not there.

    A tip for people struggling at Christmas:

    read, make things, phone a friend, take a walk in the woods, look at the stars, lose yourself in the net, stroke a pet, meditate, etc..

    All these things will help you to remember that it's just one day, it'll pass and it's NOT you...

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    I look forward to xmas gift-giving (and hoping I get something I like from my fiancé, which I will this year because I was with him when he got it Tongue ), but not the stress and arguements I know will happen, like every year past. someone tries to get all the food perfect, which isnt possible with the amount of different dishes that for some reason HAVE to be cooked (are 8 different vegetables really needed for 4 people?) not to mention the amount of cooked food is enough to last a few days. I just know my father will get cross because something will go wrong, something will be my fault, my father will get cross with my grandad (his father) because he is sorta deaf and clumsy in his old age.

    This year and last year my fiancé has come to my family's xmas, its very different from his because his entire family (over 20 people) get together and his gran cooks (with some help) and she will even cook a specific dish for one person if they are a fussy eater so everyone can enjoy food and not have to go hungry or eat what they don't want. one xmas I will get to experience that, and I really want to but since my grandma died about 3 years ago now my grandad has been really depressed so both me and my fiancé feel guilted into going to see him because it makes him happy.

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    I can admit I am a bossy sister to my little brother. My new years revolution is to try to get along with him and to keep my room clean!

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    since my dad died 4 years ago, me and my family haven't really enjoyed christmas. We end up being distant or arguing every christmas since. I try and avoid it now by working over the whole of christmas, yes its not ideal but i just cant sit round looking at that empty seat or the christmas traditions that my dad did every year.