I will be graduating from high school this year, and over my years of my secondary education, I have learned some very interesting things.
My rant is about how other kids my age, make me look bad. I am a good kid, if you walk past me in the morning, I'll say good morning, etc. I'm not overly rowdy.
However, the kids who disrespect older people and have no disregard for anybody else just piss me off!!
"If you've got it, flaunted it."
I have lost count of times, where I can visibly see a girls butt cheeks because her shorts, skirt or dress is too short. I don't understand why people have to come to school half dressed!
And this just happens to be a pet peeve, but when you smoke (not hating, i have a few friends that do) and you tuck your smoke behind your ear to look cool, YOU LOOK DUMB.
There is my rant.
My question for you is, do you ever feel like other people just ruin it for you?
First of all, yay you! I'm happy for every single young lady who SEES what is wrong with her generation. I know it sounds as if I'm 80, but todays teenagers are hell.
I just recently got the creeps when I saw two -really- young girls ( about MAYBE 9 years old ) in a store, in front of the MAKE UP, discussing wildly about what's in and what's out. It made me half angry, half sad. It's the same girls that will start to dress like hookers at the age of 12 and start having "Boyfriends" and harassing classmates that don't "date" yet... At an age where I thought boys were just SO stupid!
You know what, I blame the TV!
Just as I blame it for bullimia, drunk teens and the overall growing stupidity of mankind.
( and I blame overly sensitive, "you're the fifth winner", anti-authoritarian education! )
Im 15 and ashamed of it. I visited my cousins yesterday, aged 9 and 12. The 9 year old had an iTouch. I mean, WTF, shes 9! And the 12 year old was attached to her phone. She had a better phone than me.
Im class, the other girls discuss who they had sex with this weekend, how drunk they got and what they've stolen. It wouldnt be as bad, if it was with the same guy two weeks in a row.
Im considered a 'nerd' because I dont drink, smoke, steal, do drugs or screw strangers.
I also blame pop music. All it is, is drugs, sex and alcohol. And music about anything else is 'gay'.. Oh yeah, dont get me started on homophobes.
The world is getting harder and harder to live in. We're getting stupider. Theres no reason to have our own ideas anymore, because the media tell us what we want. Having individual ideas, is frowned upon here. I wore a Marilyn Manson shirt the other day, whilst walking with my mum, dad and little brother, and the security guard laughed at my mum.
The main problem with teenagers though?
They're getting worse.
I agree with you girls!I see 12-14 year old girls dressed waaay too sexy for their age and I always think "Wow,at that age I was playing outside with my friends!"
And 8 year olds with cell phones and Fb accounts...
And the part that they ruin for me is that I don't feel like going out to our favorite pub anymore,its starting to get crowded with 15 year old wanna be punk kids and they are really annoyingly noisy and "Look at me Im so cool and all grown up!". bLAAH...
Oh,and I started to smoke when I was 16-17,but even then I knew putting a cigar behind your ears is NOT cool. :)
Its a mad world! I think more than not teens are afraid to be regected, so they think if they follow the latest trend, dress too old for their age and act like everyone else they wont feel the pressure. I have a 14 year old daughter...no other children, she attends a school where they made it 7th grade through 12th, so basically you have 12 year olds with 20 year olds.I thank the universe everyday for the simple fact that our family has awesome communication, we talk openly about everything and i support her in most of her decisions. I have met alot of ppl from her school that need a spanking and then a hug because they really havent anyone to go to. here where we live its a lack of actually parenting and more of a "whatever you want to keep you off my back" scenerio. i find that alot of parents afraid to disipline their children. which in the end only leads to disaster.
Sigh. :( I have a 9 year old daughter and a 7 year old son and they go to the local public school.. my daughter is always coming home with horror stories about the girls she knows from school... 8 year olds saying they have had sex with 15 boys and been pregnant before...lil tiny girls threatening death on classmates... boys that go around saying.. basketballs a "colored mans" sport... my kids tell me about how their friends have FB accounts and so on and so forth... it makes me want to cry. I love my kids so much, but I detest the world they have to grow up in. They are the sweetest, kindest most loving children you will ever meet and they are given a hard time about the fact that their mommy is "gothic" and bec we do not go to church. My daughter is picked on by her friends bec she loves her lil brother and isnt mean to him. WTF?! And I have to explain to my kids in a way they can understand of why their friends say and do the these things. I dont always have an answer and I always find myself saying... "all you can do is try to be the best person you can be regardless of the rest of the world"... when inside I'm screaming at the parents who cant be bothered to pay attention to their children and care enough to remember they are only babies they still need to be taken care of!... Ok.. I think I'm done now.
its the media~too much crap on the tv! this year alone there where two incidents on my daughters bus. on seperate occasions 2 girls were video taped giving u no whats to there boyfriends, nothing happened to the first couple but the second time it made to local newsand the 2 went to juvy. where are these kids parents!?
Oddbreed that sounds terrifying. And yes I also agree with all of these rants. I find myself being constantly disgusted by the world as we know it. My friend is a teacher and she has 13 year olds who are pregnant in her classes. 13! When I was 13 I was lost in the world of pokemon the thought of doing anything more then holding a boys hand was gross hahaha.
While these people are real annoying I think to myself well at least I had a childhood which is something you can never get back. It makes me sad and angry at the same time :(
Oh dear god I compleatly agree... It's disgusting that there are kids about half my age that are - I wouldn't even called it sexy because I find it repulsive - practically nude is all I can call it. I think that these girls msut have low self esteem or are not comforable in their own skin.
I'm a big girl but I still like who I am, I do get frustrated sometimes that I don't have anyone nor can seem to find anyone that loves me for me, but I'm not going to change myself just to get someone.
What makes me even more angry is when these kids still dress practically naked in the WINTER. I feel like saying, "dude you're gonna freeze your giblets off!!"
I agree Mi. Ezekatze, Melvin and Violetta!
The media basically portrays that being trashy is the new "in" thing. and you have to be bone thin to be considered beautiful.
A reason why I love the 50's so much, is that they wore full skirts and dresses and people were considered drop dead gorgeous. And Marilyn Munroe who was a size 12 (Correct me if I'm wrong, i think it's either that or 14 ..) and she was an ICON. And she had curves!
Another thing that really truly bugs me.
I personally believe that if you as a woman, cannot afford birth control (mine is $6 a month!) then you should not be having sex. Yes, condoms work but I kid you not, I know two girls at the moment who are already pregnant, one that has a 6 month old and a girl who miscarried.
We have sex ed, but nobody really understands the consequences, and everyone thinks with the "Oh, it'll never happen to me."
Oddbreed, that is AWESOME that your family has a relationship like that. I value you mine soo much, they will definately thank you for it!
About the dresscode thing, we have a girl in town that goes to ( or at least DID go... ) the only really catholic school we have. I just recently heard that she went to school in a mini skirt, blouse and latex corset and SUSPENDERS! At the age of 16, TO SCHOOL!!! I know at that age they try to find tehmselves, and even if I as a mother would not agree, waring this outfit while clubbing -might- be understandable... But to school? ( Our schools in germany aren't as strict as some american schools seem to be, but if I was headquarter, I would have given her an hour to drive home, dress properly and come back...... )
And about parenting... Don't get me started on that one, I used to work at a kindergarden for a while.........
Just one incident, we had a mother of two, both girls really not the smartest ( I assume instead of usefull toys, they were placed in front of the TV after kindergarden... ).
The mother......... I could have slapped her OVER and OVER and OVER!
Once we played a game where her older girl had to pretend she was sea sick. She didn't know what it was so we explained that she could just play dizzy. Her mother was already there to pick her up and watched. Due to further frustration of not knowing the word, the little girl had sort of shut down and just sat there, staring at us. Then this unbelieveable woman laughed and told her daughter to play DRUNK. Me, as naive as I can be sometimes, was joking about the fact that she should not know what THAT looks like and the mom just laughed even harder and told me and my colleague that she must have seen it so many times before with her mom!!!!!!!! CAN YOU FRIGGIN BELIEVE THAT? The girl was 4 years old!!! My colleague and I were like..... O_________________O
Any more questions why kids are the way they are these days?
By the way, same mom, was pregnant with a third child, about 7 months into it. She came into the building, STILL HOLDING HER FUCKING CIGARETTE BUTT while pulling jacket zippers and so on, and I was like, wtf... Asked her why the hell she was still smoking and I got a shoulder shrug and a half mumbled excuse about addiction... Yaaaay...
I am 27 years old...(almost 28, but I stopped counting) and Even with only a 10 year gap I can tell a huge difference between what goes on in schools now, opposed to when I was a teen.
Now, in the little girl section of clothing stores you'll see stuff that I as a grown ass adult would be ashamed to wear. Target had DISNEY channel clothes with mini skirts and fishnet stockings the other day. I almost died!
When I was a kid, I knew that dressing slutty MEANT you were slutty...and I never appreciated the disgusting drooling glares that nasty old men would give you if your shirt was just a LITTLE bit too tight.
I'm totally with you Jessie J. I should have been born in the 50's. When women and girls were "Ladies" and "young ladies"...and were treated as such.
Mi.ezekatze: OMG that's awful, that would have reduced me to tears if I'd have seen that with my own pair of eyes. The only story I've heard worse then that was a story my sister told me of this woman in the area she used to live in. The area my sister used to live in is basically full of social rejects - sorry to use a harsh term but it's the only way I can get it across - druggies and alkies etc.
This woman was a crack addict and got pregnant. She didn't give up her crack addiction at all (which I can understand is easier said then done from my point of view) but she carried to full term. My sister said that when this baby cried, they tried giving it milk, dummies, changing its nappy etc. The baby didn't stop crying, it was crying for crack. Where the mother had used it throughout the pregnancy it had got into the baby's system too. That reduced me to tears!!
Melvin: I also hate it when people use the term "gay" outside of its context. Whenever they describe something as rubbish or whatever they call it gay!!! It really annoys me, it must really piss off gay people too...
My daughter is starting kindergarden next fall. Reading spookiesweety and oddbreed's posts scare the hell outta me! In my generation, we kids were all pretty innocent until atleast 14-16 years old..we didn't care so much about fasion, nobody dressed like a hooker...etc. My mom always told me that I wasent allowed to have a bikini swim suit until I had the 'goods' to fill it.
We only had 3 chanels on our TV (we werent very well off).. usually got to watch 1 show a day. We would rather be outside playing anyways. I had a pretty happy/fun childhood.
I see kids today trying to grow up way too fast. And I feel hopeless as a mother trying to protect my daughter from all this.
@jessi.. How did you turn out to be such a great teenager? Was it something your mom did in raising you? Id love to know, I hope my daughter(s) can be as strong as you to resist the mainstream teenage garbage.
absolute insanity...We just found out that our neighbors pregnant 16 year old daughters (due Oct. 21st) boyfriend, who already has a 1 year old, has just found out he's gotten another girl pregnant! this will be his 3rd!? 2 are from girls that were 15 when they concieved, he is almost 22 (WTF) and the worst part of all...her mother allowed all this to happen under her roof! these kids learn what they see, the mom has a boyfriend and a husband, must be ok! ugh!
I know what you mean. I'm 19 and I've always hated people my own age. My best friends are all older and I've always dated older men. It really upsets me when I try to help something and they see a teenager near them and freak out.
I'm no model citizen, I lost my virginity at 13, I smoke and drink and take drugs, but I would never hurt or threaten anyone, I'm not rowdy, I try to help people all the time and do charity work, but I'm still looked down on for my age.
@ Lolly.bot and Mi.ezekatze: One of the girls that I know that is pregnant, still smokes. Now, I can understand like doing it slowly because quitting can stress you out and consequently stress the baby out, but this is what girls dont understand.
As soon as you get pregnant, you are no longer a teenager. You are an ADULT. You have to make decisions for the health and good of your child. You cannot party and act the way you have to. There is a person inside (or out) you that depends on you for their SURVIVAL.
@Kitty: I won't lie, when I was younger I went through my rowdy stage. For about, 5 months. What I saw, and experienced changed me. Seeing so many people end up in the hospital from alcohol poisioning etc. I didn't exactly fall in with the right crowd. When people started treating me like dirt I realized that I'm better then that. I don't know if it's because I experienced it that I am the way I am, But it was definately an eye opener.
My mom also had a big part in it, she gave me this amazing speech about what I can grow to be etc, what I can accomplish when I put my mind to it. After that, everything just really changed.
A large part, is that I can respect for MYSELF and other people. I will not "whore" myself out to feel needed by a boy. If there is one thing to stress a lot with your daughters (not saying that you aren't already btw ^_^ ) is respect. Self respect goes so far, because so many girls I know don't have that. And ambitions! The way I am is because I want to achieve great things!
And thank you very much, you made my day!! ^_^
Recently a 15 year old girl at my school left, because she had a baby.
I went to my cousins house on Thursday. It almost made me cry. Their mum is a crack whore. She's addicted to god only knows what, and she's an alcoholic. My uncle used to be, but hes stopped drinking and is slowly changing his life around. No help from his wife though. The kids have no disapline what so ever. They get screeched at, then sworn at, and when we arent there.. probably hit. I know smacking kids works, my mum did it to me when I was little. But it should only be done by people in their right mind. I hate parents who swear at their kids, especially young children. My two cousins are always swearing, they're 8 and 10. I still wont swear in front of my parents. I feel so sorry for these kids. Every time I see them, I just want to take them away from that place, and look after them properly. At the rate they're going, they will be those kids, who will be pregnant or getting girl friends pregnant at 14. They will be pot heads. They will be alcoholics. And I want to change that.
I agree with everyone. Kids are growing up so fast these days. And all the songs that we listen to sound the same, nothing is original. Its like someone tries to be original but other people criticize them. I mean, somehow we're use to copying other people and... not being ourself. Someone has to make a difference! Unless you want everyone to be stupid, I thought that the kids were suppose to be the future...
I'm in 7th grade and the first couple of weeks of middle school, didn't really turn out so well. This popular girl that everyone knows is just some kind "slut" and is trying to influence other people to be like her, by well, being "sexy." I mean, she wears push up bras, shows off her butt in athletics, (does that on purpose, actually) the only girl in the locker room to walk around with underwear only, (trying to be brave) shows off her boobs, (she has to change her sports bra in FRONT of a shower, with NO curtain. there is only one shower with a curtain, the rest have none or are broken.) and the list goes on.
She's kinda like "Say that I'm sexy, and I'll like you," or "Say that I'm beautiful, and I'll be your friend." Everyone on the volleyball team had to dress up all nice, of coarse she would be on it, she's a show off. Both of my friends are on the team, and one of them said to the other "WOW, you look so beautiful," and then that "slut" just walks by, overhearing her compliment and just rolls her eyes. One time, they all dressed up and she was the only one that looked like she was dressed to go a club. A tight, grey, mini skirt, with high heels was what she wore, AAHHH, I can't stand her.
I don't really know her personally, but as a stranger, I think she's just making herself look bad. My friend knows her pretty well and turns out she's actually a really nice girl, but really? Thats kinda hard to believe. She's a charmer, usually gets the guys, but she doesn't really like it when guys hit on her. Well, then she should probably stop dressing like that!! I guess she just wants everybody to look at her, she's pretty tough too, funny 'cause she ALWAYS cries when she gets hurt, like bumping her head into the wall. Its like she's a superstar, everyone has to cheer for her, especially the guys. NO, what are they thinking? Stupid blonde, one day she's going to get raped...
I can't talk anymore, my brain is about to explode.
omg people my age (20) are so stupid. yeah im a rare one with being on my own since i was 12 and being married and all but that dosn't mean that other people my age have ot act so.... stupid. i agree 100 million percent.
schools these days dont teach the things children need to learn and when and if said kids make it to high school they dont have the manners or smarts they woul have had say 20 years ago. it makes me sick how rude and slutty teenagers have become. and the fact that its popluar to have kids at 14? WTF is wrong with people
actually just talekd to my 12 year old sister and she asked me to check out her face book..
okay. so i look her up.
and the first thing i see is these words;
1. Do you think chistian is a babe?
2. Do you want to bend christian over and .. (fill in the blank)
3. is chirstian the best lay ever?
okay so on the list of things i should never see on my baby sisters face book .. id say they make the list.
So i ask her why she has that crap on her page and you know hwat she says?
justin berber does it so should i.
WHAT THE FUCK!?!?
what ever happend to mary kate and ashley? they were role models, and rainbow brite, wonder wommen, omg. justin berbier does it.
i cant get that out of my head.
my little sister who i rasied from a tot, is ONE OF THEM!! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I WANNA CRY.
@ Melvin: I work at Toys R Us, and I SHIT YOU NOT, i heard a little 8 year old say "SUCK MY DICK". Me and my supervisor were shocked. Get this his mother just LAUGHED.
I'm no where near to being a parent, nor am I ready. But I know how I will raise my children, and for a parent to think that that is funny and amusing is ridiculous.
Kids should be focusing on being kids. Enjoying life, not worrying about being sexy or is they are "hot."
@lolEffects: Stay strong, hun. I feel sorry for the girl you're taking about, with no self respect really. I feel like she needs that attention to feel satisfactory. I'm glad that you notice this and aren't changing to fit in. I really hope that she notices what she does before anything horrible happens to her.
Another thing (which I hope that I'm not treading on any mummies and daddies feet) but some of the blame is parents. I know so many "popular" girls in my school who's moms don't care if they drink and do drugs. They try to be their friend instead of being a mother figure. It's horrible, OR they party TOGETHER.
Your absolutly right Jessi..some parents just don't give a s*#! And it fustrates me because these out of control kids will be going to school with my kids and theres not a whole lot I can do about it but be very involved, which I plan on being. Im so afraid that when they go to school, all the good morals I have been teaching will go right out the window and my sacrifices to be a stay at home mom will all be for nothing.
We own our home, and I think you care a little more about your things when you earn them... well, right across our alley is an assisted living complex (where all the immigrants & people on welfare live for free) They don't care about the neighbourhood because they just toss their garbage everywhere, they have no respect for their neighbours. Their kids are not supervised and they pretty much run around the neighbourhood in bare feet destroying things and swearing at anyone that comes in their way. Because of our location, we have an assigned school district, my kids will be going to school with these people. We have tried to sell our house to move for the past 2 years.. but with the economy the way it is, were stuck here until things pick up again.
It's easy to get mad at the kids for being so out of control, but I actually feel really sad for them, they arent getting what they need to excell in life.
I wish some people would be more serious about their jobs as parents, it's the most important job in the world!
Sorry if I went way off topic :P
You weren't off topic Kitty, it's just a major problem that unfortunately, may not get the attention it needs.
I agree with everyone here, except the one statement about having a kid makes you a grown up. It only puts you in grown up's position, in no way does that make you a grown up, especially if you're doing the same shit you were doing before you got pregnant (smoking, drinking, whoring, being disrespectful and the list goes on). It's sad but it just a baby with a baby.
And what's with the 22 year idiot getting young girls pregnant?!! I would think his ass would be in jail for statutory rape, WTF?! Is no one reporting this? That's another problem, no one wants to concern themselves with doing the right thing. Living in the "good ol' USA" is the most free country there is but it's going a little too far when it comes to letting our kids be free from parenting. If this keeps up, no telling where we will be with the next generation at the helm. Scary thought!!!
i'm a teenager! i was raised old fashioned and i moved to a big city from a (500 pop) small town! i didn't have a cell till i was hmmm 14! and now my neighbor a babysit have an IPHONE and HES FOUR YEARS OLD!!! id rather kick my kids outside then this crud.
i rarely wear make up and people use this against me
i'm a teenager! i was raised old fashioned and i moved to a big city from a (500 pop) small town! i didn't have a cell till i was hmmm 14! and now my neighbor a babysit have an IPHONE and HES FOUR YEARS OLD!!! id rather kick my kids outside then this crud.
i rarely wear make up and people use this against me, but ive learned wearing makeup contantly causes the look of old age sooner!
This girl, in my school, says she wants a baby when she's 17!!! My friend asked her "Who would want a kid at that age," and then she responds "Everyone." My friend and I are were just shocked! Because really, having a kid at that age is basically just ruining your life. I mean, how are you going to take care of a baby when you don't have any money, you don't have a job... its just stupid! Last year, there was this big rumor about the same girl saying that she was pregnant and she wanted to keep the baby.
Then in 5th grade, my friend saw a picture of a girl sucking a guy's ****. She knew the guy in the picture and said that he was a 6th grader!!
Erika B.- Yeah, all of my friends already have a phone, I don't. But what would a 4 year old need a phone for?!?
I don't wear makeup either, but my friends say I should. Theres some girls I know that wear makeup and they don't even look like they should be in 7th grade. They just look like short 16 year olds! My sister was about to buy me some mascara but then I said "It's not like I'm going to wear it everyday," and I was just a 5th grader.
I must have gone to a dodgy school (I went in the 80s- in the UK, and yes I'm talking end of primary as well as secondary)- we had all the things you describe here going on then. Mind you in was the centre of a city in a fairly rough-and-ready area - ironically the area's got better so it's actually nicer now!
What's sad is the pressure on kids to have the 'negative' side- TV convinces them they aren't interesting unless their life is a soap opera. Whereas when I was at school those with problems/issues too young didn't want them or flaunt them. It's like a poison cup disguised as an alco-pop - the media says 'take it, it will make you older/more popular' without mentioning it could mess up someone's life.